Can a man be attracted to other women and still be committed?

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I've been with him for 4 years and 3 months. I forgot how the topic got started but he told me, "Yes. I'm attracted to other women." He's been saying "I love you." everyday for 3 1/2 years, but I've never heard him say that he's attracted to other women.
I think it's okay if he thinks other women are attractive-- but when he says "I'm attracted to other women..." it just doesn't sound the same. (I'm hearing a difference between "attractive" and "attracted")
Is he saying, 
1. "Yes, I think other women are attractive" or is he saying,
2.  "I'm attracted to other women-- and I WANT to go after them, but you're not going to be okay with that" ?

Which he's taking into consideration that we have an actual relationship. But if I said "Go for it." would he really just go-- or would he stop and ponder about the relationship and choose not to go even though he's "attracted."

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Calm down, deep breath. Stop being paranoid. Attraction is part of life. Ever seen a hot guy and went "wow." He is attractive to you, and you are attracted to him. You are getting all caught up in wording. He loves you, he chose you and he want to be with you. There may be a hot girl in the movie, or working at the coffee shop, but he still holds your hand and loves you. My partner and I tell each other when we find someone attractive, and the other person agrees or disagrees. We are comfortable with it and it means we aren't afraid the other is keeping something from us. Trust and love work hand in hand.

lunatic · Answer

Men are wired to be physically attracted to women who attractive to them whether they are in a committed relationship or not.  You should feel special that your boyfriend feels comfortable enough to tell you this truth.  It shows how much he loves and trusts you.

Any straight man who tells his woman that he never looks at other women or feels a physical attraction to really hot women is lying.  Some men have actually convinced themselves that they feel no attraction to other women.  They lie to themselves.

Do yourself a favor and thank your guy for his honesty.

Nightshift · Answer

OF course he can find other woman attractive and be charmed by them. He isn't dead he is just committing to be with you and all meaningful ways. In fact he is committed to you all the while he masturbates dreaming of other woman. Its normal and natural. In fact if you were being totally honest you would admit you notice a hot guy and when your fingers are applied to your groin  your mind thinks of other men and woman other then your man on occasion.

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