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Too direct? was I wrong?
This guy I met a year ago e-mails me, texts me, calls me and even stops by my office just to say hello.
Well the problem is he constantly makes dates for lunch and sometimes dinner and cancels them or can't make his mind up and changes the date. Mind you he is the one who keeps asking me to go out to lunch/dinner.
So end result I have to adjust my schedule and feel I am always in limbo. So yesterday was the final straw.
He sent me a text stating the date for monday may be a problem for him (schedule) and what other date do I have available.
I responded Wednesday (if this specific calendar date does not work for you) then lets just forget about this whole lunch/dinner date entirely.
He has done this before and I am busy just as well. I feel he makes eating (lunch/or dinner) complicated.
Am I wrong for the text I sent(my response)? Mature opinions only.
Thank you : Been There and Cigar monkey- You both understand -good answers.
Update: The guy texted me and asked me to Please not cancel. I guess he gets it now.
4 Answers
- Anonymous10 years agoFavorite Answer
I have no time for people who ask me to set aside my own time for them, and then change their mind.
I think you were honest, direct, and kind. You didn't call him names for his unacceptable behavior. I think you contained your annoyance well.
It is entirely reasonable for you to expect him to keep his appointments, and to expect him to NOT make appointments that he might not be able to keep.
- mistista07Lv 610 years ago
It was a little too direct and should have been said nicer. However, he needs to know more. He needs to know that things do come up but whe nhe schedules a date that you both agree too, he needs to not change it so often because it turns you off with all the complications.
- Anonymous9 years ago
You're definitely not wrong. I would have done the same thing. One time I had this friend and every time I asked him to hang out, he said he would be busy working. So I just quit asking him. We only actually hung out 2 times out of all the times I asked him. It didn't bother me that he was working because I only liked him as a friend.
Thanks for answering mine.
- Anonymous10 years ago
No. Your text was appropriate. He obviously does not value your friendship enough to stick with the plans HE makes.
