I don't know how to move on?

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I really like this girl, btw. I am a girl. She is gay & im not sure what I am . I like girls but not guys but she keeps saying she doesnt think im truly gay... so idk . anyway , we had a sleep over last weekend, and we kissed & we cuddled & we had the sweetest, cutest night ever . and she is single, im single & she was tellling me everything she likes about me . and i told her everything i like about her & she asked me if i think her and i could work out . i said if we wanted it to yes . she said we need to talk about it. so when i go to talk about it, she basically already knew the outcome of , no we wont work out . what was the point in her asking ?
 
she told me her reasons were that, we come from two different worlds. my world is structured as oposed to her. and she doesnt want to be a bad influence on me because she smokes and drinks and i dont .. but i dont care if she doesnt . im not influenced by anyone . and she wants a girl that she can smoke/drink with & shes done things ive never done before ... & that im too innocent . 

another reason was that she thinks im really into this guy & im not . by any means im not . i really really like her & i want to be with her . its so sad . 

I just dont see the point in anything. Why did anything happen then if she knew we would end up like this ? & now i feel so awkward around her , and i dont like that feeling . i love being around her , even as friends ... and its so hard . we went to a party last night ,we hardly even spoke , she looked so damn beautiful and it killed me to watch her have a good time while i was hurting :( 

Last year my best friend fell in love with her, and she always held her feelings back & was so mean to my best friend, and finally when my best friend got over her & found a new girlfriend, she confessed her love to her, and it was too late. now my best friend has dated quite a few girls after falling out of love with the girl, she currently has a girlfriend , and the girl i like , i think she still has feelings for my best friend, who is also her best friend , and it sucks :(
 
i have done nothing wrong , im just not "right" for her .. but i want it so bad . i dont want to move on but i know i have to , right ? I just dont know how ..
 
all answers would be great. thanks .

? · Accepted Answer

Yes hun you have a delema  but you can reamdy  that  you just have her for a sleep over again   and just tell  her what she want to here you don't have to smoke and drink just to win her love and  it looks like  she wants to be the  boss  just tell her that drinking and smokeing  is not something  that should come between us  just tell her as time passes i might have a drink but tell her  there is more to a relationship then drinking and smokeiing buy her a bottle of what she likes to drink and  when she  comes over fix her a drink tell her you love to drink her love and you would rather get drunk on her love because it last longer and you don't get a hang over  just  agree with her and don't do it let her give you a drink take a sip and don't drink anymore just have it there in front of you  lite  up one and just let it burn out  everything works out for the best and just think of what might be in tne future with this lady you might start looking for someone else as you go with her and do things with her

Anonymous · Answer

you haven't done anything wrong
it's a sucky situation but you just need to let things happen and try stop  thinking about it. i was in, nearly, the same situation and i know from experience you will move on after time, it doesn't feel like it now but you will.
try to do things to keep your mind off the girl, art sport, whatever your into,  it will give you something you can get stuck into and not think about her. Distraction therapy.
you'll find someone even better then her soon, no really you will, and you'll forget all about the mess. it doesn't feel like it but hold out, the future can be generous

once again give yourself time, it is natural to be stuck, with your feelings, like this but it will be ok..

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