I'm pregnant, how do I tell the father?

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So, I found out I was pregnant about 3 weeks ago. I went to the doc 2 weeks ago to confirm it, and I was told I was 6 weeks and 5 d pregnant. Now I'm 8 weeks, and I still haven't told my bf. He's alot older than I am, he is in his 30's and I'm in my 20's. He already has a kid, and I know he doesn't want any more children. I've been scared to tell him that I'm pregnant. We aren't very serious, and we didn't mean for it to happen. Yes it was our fault, no condom, and I haven't had my birth control. I had lost my insurance awhile back, and I hadn't been able to afford it. But ya, I've been afraid to tell him. I cant wait much longer, so I'm gonna try to tell him tonight. The prob is I'm scared he is gonna get up and walk away, and never talk to me again. Or he is gonna yell at me. I don't want to be left alone in this, and I don't think I can handle him yelling at me. I'm not sure yet about keeping it or not, but I'd love his help and support in my decision.

So my question for yall is, how can I tell him and break it to him in a way that he wont freak out too much.

Leila · Accepted Answer

No matter how you tell him, I'm 99% sure he won't walk out. It is his child, and being that he has a child already, he is a family man who has experienced the joy of creating life already. 
What I would do is, I would sit him down and be  like "I have something to tell you". Then just drop the bomb. It may be unexpected, but the sooner you tell him, the better.

frances · Answer

Ok dont listen to that cad taylor. Age is just a number and i think that ur stronger than u know and u can handle this by yourself if he walk out on u. Dont fret about it its not good foe the baby. Just say hey umm i got something to tell u and let him decide from there what he does do u do whats best for u and that baby

kaite babyy · Answer

Ignore people calling you a whore -- it's not like you don't know which guy is the father & you're not in your teens.
Tell him soon because it is HIS child and if you keep it, the baby will need both parents, together or not, in his/her life. He is already a father, so that would make him a little bit more understanding.
Good luck!

Anonymous · Answer

If he really loves you he will help you through these hard times and be there for you like a true love and father. Tell him and if he leaves you than he never was the one. Hope this helped :)

angel · Answer

I would just tell him. It is going to be hard. but none of us know how he is going to react. good or bad. But you need to tell him and then from there make a decision if you are going to keep your baby or do adoption. good luck hun

? · Answer

You're going to have to tell him sooner or later. The best way is to come right out and say it.

? · Answer

Just show him the test or leave him a note

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