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Annoyed with my brother in law -i live in his house?

Here is MY problems: I'm living under his roof, but i do pay rent. Room has no door.

(Moving out is not an option)

Here is HIS problems: Sister is pregnant, currently unemployed(probably not for long) Basicly he has too much spare time.

He's always in my bedroom laying on my bed, trying to steal my computer from me whenever i leave the room.

Its not that i dislike having company, its that he's always in here. When i come home from work everyday, i only have 10 hours left to sleep or do some other stuff. I hope you all understand me and can relate, before all the last few hours of the day i rather be left alone, in solitary, just being able to relax and do whatever i want. I just can't take it anymore and ive been having sudden outbursts with him lately, sometimes he just annoys me so much, that i lose all control of myself. He also calls me alot of names, and never does anything he promises, unless its extremely important. I realize that most of the time he may be just joking around with me, but he's always joking around, to the point i can no longer tell whether he's joking or being serious.

Honestly every time he's in my room i always feel uncomfortable like someone is watching over me 24/7, i feel restricted in movement and in space, like i can't even lay down on my own bed whenever i want to because he's always there.

Also i can't simply just talk to him or force him to go out, as im living under his roof, nor will he ever listen to what i really have to say. Every time i try to ask him to leave, he always refuses in a contemptuous tone which really sets me off so i sometimes yell at him for not giving me any space or respect. The worst part is everytime i yell at him i feel horrible about it, like i owe him something. So i'm usually extra nice to him after the outbursts. which just causes the whole cycle to repeat all over again.

He's not a total *******, he just sometimes is. He's a good person overall but i just have trouble with him spending so much time in my room. Maybe he's used to this( he has a brother) but i grew up in a family with 3 sisters so we usually all keep ourselves in our respected boundaries.

Really im desperate right now, to the point im posting my personal problems on yahoo forums.

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  • 9 years ago
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    Why can't you move out? If you can't afford it, find someone who needs a room mate and pay them instead of your brother-in-law. There are websites you can go to find people looking for room mates. At least you'll have you're privacy. Why not buy a door? If you stay you really have to just talk to him firmly and set some boundaries.

  • 9 years ago

    i have somewhat the same issue but my sister and her soon to be husband and their 1 yr old girl live in my house he is so mean and rude to everyone in my family he tells me off does the same to my dad i want to kick them out but i feel bad for my sister and her kid they havent done anything but yet she lets him treat everyone like crap i dont want them to get married no one in our family does the guy thinks he always has something to be mad about so there isnt much you can do but try and hang in there until you can move out people like that dont care about your feelings even if you tell them they have hurt you or it bothers you i cant even look him in the face its really uncomfortable you could try and ask for a door for your room sit them down and try and talk about how it makes you feel all the best of luck with you i hope you have better luck then i do

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    9 years ago

    It sounds as if he is a liberal. Since liberals prefer welfare to work, they have a lot of time on their hands. Don't let him use your computer, liberals are known for downloading porn and charging other people's credit cards. Try to find a new place to live.

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