Should I leave my husband?

Probably -- but it won't be easy. Is the other child yours or his from another relationship? U said "ours" but he could be adopted. I would keep in close contact with friends and other family for safety. Ask him if he can go visit a buddy for a few days till he cools off. Also make a police report that he threatened your life even if U do not believe he will follow through. U must make a legal record of this. It will help in all future negotiations in a divorce. This guy is ungrateful and dangerous. Be safe about all else, no matter if U go somewhere of he leaves. He is on a power trip with the boy. He is the type who will use a child as a pawn. God luck.

Your husband sounds like he is a controlling and abusive individual...I am sure there are other instances where he has been abusive towards you. You definitely deserve better than that. It may be very hard for you to leave your husband, but with volatile individuals your only safety net is to find a safe place to go. Domestic violence shelters offer a safe environment, and they can provide you with the healing you need to break free from your husband. They can also help you make safety plans.

A real man does not make his wife work extra hours to have a good Christmas. A real man would have been out working himself to make that happen. A real man would not call his wife out of her name and threaten her. He is obviously an insecure little boy who needs to mature. Unfortunately, we can't raise a grown man....and we can't change a grown man.

Your safety is the most important, in my opinion.

http://www.thehotline.org/ (National Domestic Violence Hotline)

why in the heck would you consider staying with him. You don't need him financially, emotionally he is abusing you, being drunk doesn't excuse it, it makes it worse. How do you think he will treat the kids when he continues to drink and why in the heck would any *&^%# man allow his wife to work that much? That is ridiculous! You have clearly marriage the wrong man and you just need to come to terms with that. Don't make this a life sentence for you or your kids. You will soooo regret it later.

You have to leave now. He's a violent,nasty drunk and he'll end up hurting you physically too. You have to go. Call the cops b/c of his threats. There's no reason to threaten to kill your wife.

Repeat. Saw this posted this morning, Troll.

i understand violence and abuse, but I have to agree with Rorydee., dont put everything to waste. he's just as scared as you are and u said urself he was drunk. so before taking any action you need to talk to him when he's sober and see what you guys want to do as responsible adults. you cant run and hide from him forever, he's ur babys father

Most likely he did not mean the words he said. He is just as angry, stressed, and scared as he should be, but he's having trouble expressing it without hurting you. Both of you need to sit down and agree that your marriage will not end and lay out a game plan on how you can balance your work and home life.