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My husband and I both have been working out of town...it's temporary until we sell our house. He works 5 nights out of the week, and when he gets home I leave tine and go to work. We do it this way because we can't afford daycare. When I get home we have a half hour to see eachother, vise versa...and I'm always the one to initiate intimacy showing how much I missed him. I initiate kissing, hugging and sex. I always say I love you first. It hurts because I feel like he doesn't want me to do any id that...if I didn't initiate any affection then what? Would I go without...I feel like he no longer loves me....could it be stress? Am I asking too much?

Every day my husband will bicker about sometjing. "Ughhhh why is the broom in the kitchen?! Put it where it belongs!" "you are lazy! Get out of my way I'll finish this half *** cleaning job". He always says things like that, all day long. I clean everyday and pick up after the kids and he always finds sometjig wrong with what I do. Earlier I was standing in the kitchen in front of the silverware drawer and he said "move!" (I didn't move because of the wy he said it) the. He said "move! God dammit ******* move!" and pushed me out of the way. I told him if he would have aske me nicely I would have moved. Then jOkingly I smacked him lightley with a wet towel just playing around. And he punched me as hard as he could in the boob. I said "jeeze I barely tapped you with that towel, why did you hit me ao hard" and he said he was just playing too. What do I do? He is always mad and always serious . What could be causing him to be this way?!

So I'm currently going through a divorce and I met this guy. We talked and would text all day... We hung out a few times we never slept together but we did do just about everything else. We had a date planned out on a Friday night and had talked to him an hour before our date and things were still on. He never showed up, didn't call, text nothing. So I went out and had a few drinks and called several times and textd him telling him how hurt I was. He texted me the next day in the afternoon claiming he fell asleep and claimed he was sorry. He then stopped talking to me. Then a week later I texted him and finally a reply "I'm sorry I want to see you" so we saw eachother and kissed and held each other all night still haven't had sex....he told me he was so sorry and that he was afraid of commitment and that he would never do this to me again. The next morning he texted a few times and then again stopped answering my phone calls and texts. My coat is in his truck and I want it back and still no text about arranging a time for me to get it. Back..... Why is he doing this to me?

We have been married for 2 years and together for 4. We weren't together long when we found out we were pregnant. we had our first son together when I was 19 and he was 25. Got married a year later. My husband from day one has always been emotionally abusive. Constantly critisizing me, name calling, and occasionally pushes, shoves, and had pulled my hair when he gets drunk and upset. I thought I loved him so I tried to see past all of these things.

A year ago I started talking to a guy in a friendly manor and he was so nice to me that I continued it. Eventually I ended up saying things that I shouldn't have. I went to the bar for my friend bachelorette party and saw this guy there and he gave me a ride to a friends house and I ended up staying the night on the couch ,He slept in the spare bedroom. (I knew I had screwed up,Though I didn't do anything physical with this man I felt so guilty about the way I felt and the things I was texting to him) A few weks later my husband found out about the texting and internet afair. We decided to work it out he gave me a secnod chance which i was thankful for. Ever since that incident I have been attentive to my husband, I go no where with out him. I no longer have facebook etc. Even though I have been trying to make him trust me he consistantly brings up the emotional affair i had with this man.

Recently we had our second son he is 3 months old now. We went out together a few weeks back and had too much to drink. He started the abuse name calling and telling me I was worthless. This time when he blew up it was different. I let all of the emotion that I've held in for so long OUT! I didn't hide in my bedroom and cry. I actually told him how he made me feel and that I resent him for all of the abuse he has done to me.He came up to me and grabbed my hair and pulled it and said "You better shut the F*** up or I'll kill you"

The next day he pretended like nothing happened and because my kids were home I didn't want to bring it up. The next day still like nothing happened. When I went to work that evening I called him and told him I hadn't forgot what happened and that I was tired of the fighting and that I just felt like we weren't good together anymore.

He started crying telling me he wanted to work it out and that he would get counceling for his abusive behavior. weeks have gone by and still no counceling.

Sex, is no longer, I can't stand it anymore...I feel so miserable in this marriage I don't know what to do.

My was an autobody tech for 8 years. After 8 years of working there he was only making 17 an hour. we now have 2 kids together a 3 year old and an 8 week old. He finally quit his job at the autobody shop when we found out I was pregnant. I could no longer work at my job because it was physically demanding. Off of his 17 an hour job we just couldn't pay the bills. He got a job working for his friend operating heavy equipment. He was bring home double what he brought home working at the body shop. 3 weeks after we had our baby he decided it was enough and came home and got a job making 16hr 40hrs a week making even less than he was at the body shop!! I can't go back to work full time because can't afford daycare and do not qualify for state benefits! I have been working 4hrs in the evening as much as my job will allow me. and 12 hour shifts on the weekends. we aren't going to make it financially and my husband doesn't seem to care. He said he loved operating heavy equipment. Why wouldn't he go back to doing that so he can provide for our family?? i just dont understand.....we are about to lose our house, our vehicles, everything and he doesn't care...

Last night my husband and I went out with a few friends to drink and ended up drinking too much. Out of no where he started screaming and yelling at me. When we got home I told him that I was done with him and I wasn't going to deal with the emotional abuse anymore. Its constant belitting with him, he always makes me feel like a child. Continually calls me a fat b**** calls me a C*NT just anythiung to hurt me....I have to report to him for every little thing that I do.....I feel the need to lie about things that shouldnt matter. Last night in our argument and after telling him I was done with him and after lashing out telling him all of the things he does to me that is wrong! he came up to me and got really close to my face and yanking my hair screaming at me ( don't remember what he said) this "yanking of the hair" is the first physical contact he has ever done to me other than he has pushed me a few times. We have 2 kids together and I want it to work but don't want my boys growing up like this. Is this physical abuse too? will it get worse? Am I over reacting?

My husband and I have been married 2 years on Tuesday. we have a 2 1/2 year old boy and a new born baby boy. My husband had to quit his job of 7 years a few months ago to go to North Dakota and work to make more money because I would be out of work for a while with the new baby and with me working and paying day care my wages would be almost nothing. My husband hates North Dakota and being gone all of the time from his kids. I don't blame him one bit, I am 100% for finding him a new job back at home. But he says things like this "you just want me to work in ND so you can sit on your fat a$$." "You are the one that made me go to ND" and today we were arguing about the same stuff, his job, the fact that i just want to stay at home and sit on my "fat a$$" the fact that he doesn't get to have sex wit hhis wife. my new born is 2 weeks old and i'm not suposed to be having sex yet!! anyway when he left today he gave the boys a kiss good bye and i said "well aren't you gooing to say good bye to me" he says "Don't worry i'll make more money for you this week" and that was it. No good bye love you, no kiss, no hug. How do I deal with this?? I'm heart broken that he is acting this way. I don't know waht to do to fix it...

I am almost 38 weeks pregnant. I had several bowel movemnts today like 7-8 and had some uncomfortable contractions that subsided. Then around 9pm before I went to bed I am guessing I lost my mucus plug it was a snot like discharge that came out in a glob( sorry for too much info) I woke up around 2am feeling uncomfortable with a rock hard tummy. having some period like cramps. So I took a warm bath to see if the contractions, cleaned my house a bit and then sat down to start timing contractions. I dont feel like I'm in a lot of pain so i'm worried whether or not i'm in labor or just false labor?!?!

first contraction I started timing

3:01

3:08

3:11

3:14

3:19

3:23

3:29

3:34

3:39

3:44

Like I said they haven't been really painful so I just don't know...what do you guys think should i go to the hospital???

I lie everyday to my husband and it kills me. I hate lieing! i hate it! But....if i don't lie to my husband I get yelled at for things I feel I shouldn't be yelled at for. For example I have to lie about whether or not I bought a $1.19 fountain soda. If he finds out that I do he says "quit spending all of my money!" we aren't penny pinchers we do have money to buy things like a damn fountain soda. I have to lie about small everyday things like this in order to keep him from yelling at me. I've brought this up to him and told him that I feel like i'm on egg shells and he tells me to quit whining. just tired of it and don't know how to get him to stop making me feel like i have to lie about stupid things to avoid an argument. what can i do???

I am 37 weeks pregnant with my second child. My husband works out of town and he expects me to be working a full time job still. I am a Nurses Assistant so my job requires alot of lifting and bending nad being on my feet all day. after a few hours at work I am in so much pain. my back hurts and my tummy is really tight from the braxton hick contractions i get from all of the walking, bending, and lifting. He says to me "What the hell do you do all week? You need to be working full time." "quit whining" "Aren't you going to work today?" "You did this to yourself" The only time he shows any sympathy for me being pregnant is when we around family or friends. Then he pretends he gives a crap. I have to do all of the house keeping, taking care of our 2 year old and go to work while he is working out of town. He thinks its cake walk for me and that I should feel privledged that I'm not the one gone all the time. Ughhh i'm soo tired and hurt so much I don't want to have to go to work tomorrow but if I don't i'm going to get yelled at. Why is he being this way?!?!?!

I've been having contractions for about an hour now some are 3 minutes apart some are 5 minutes apart. They are bareable and I can still go about my daily activities. I don't want to hurry up and run to the hospital for contractions to find out they are just braxton hicks. What do you gals think??

Neighbors just moved in a few weeks ago and we learned we share the same name Miranda. we soon began hanging outside together because our boys are the same age and noticed that we both have the same tattoo on our right foot. Our husbands both work out of town in Williston ND. Then today we found out that we both share the same birthday! what are the odds?? So weird....

I am 30 weeks pregnant. I am a nursing assistant at a nursing home. If some of you don't know the job is physically strenuous. I work fuLl time hours still and when I come home I'm tired. My back hurts my feet hurt. If I say anything along those lines he says. Oh what ever your fine, quit being whiney . Today he asked me why I don't work 60 hours a week like I used to! He wasn't joking. My husband works out of town and is home one day a week. So on top being 30 weeks pregnant and working a full time job I am taking care of our 2 year old and doing all of the house work. He never asks how I am feeling.. Nothing...what's with him??

My grandfather has been trying to prepare me for the collapse of the dollar for several years now. It wasnt until recent that it really sunk in that it will actually happen and soon. My question is. How much more time do we have to prepare for the collapse of the dollar? When do you guys think it will happen?

My credit score is around 690 and my husbands score is about 645. We want to buy a brand new vehicle. what interest rate can we expect applying jointly? how do they determine the interest rate regarding the two credit scores??

I work a lot of hours as I am a nurse and we need the extra money or so my husbamd thinks so. I worked 80 hours in one week last week because we wanted a "good" christmas. Anyhow I normally work a 50-60 hour week so on my day off I would like to relax. I would also like to do house work but I truly do not have the motivation when its my only day off. Needless to say my husband does do a lot of the house work and I appreciate that. Yesterday I found out that I am pregnant. I come home from work last night he was very drunk and he says to me "are you f****** retarded you stupid c***, I already feel like a maid, you are a lazy fat slob, I don't want anything to do with you or the new kid and if you try to leave with our son ill kill you" he repeated the same things over sand over. I am so hurt, idk what to do. We didn't talk ths morning I'm scared to see him tonight when I ghet off from work

Yesterday I found out I was pregnant and of course told my husband. We did not plan this and really did not want another baby right now. He was taking it "okay" before I went to work but when I got home he had drank a six pack of beer and had a half a bottle of captain morgan. He started screaming at me "are you f****** stupid we can't have another kid, I'm a f****** maid as it is. You are a lazy fat slob. You've let yourself go you fat cu**, your kid will never love you like he loves me. If you leave with my kid I will kill you, get the f*** out of my house me or my kid don't need you in our lives" I'm so hurt by this I don't know what to do.

I am a wife and mother of a 2 year old. My husband and I have been considering me going to school in another state. I have been accepted to the nursing program. I have been trying to get accepted to the program at home, after 3 years of applying and not being accepted It has left me to apply else where. Now I have the oppurtunity to go but am scared to leave my family behind to do it. The program is only4 semesters. This career would be life changing for my family and I. Am I crazy to leave my family for school?

I want to try 800 calories a day for a month. I am 5' 3" 175lbs 21 year old female, very over weight :( how much will I lose in a month on that diet? Yes I know the risks.