Husband says hurtful things?

Today, you call a very good Family Law attorney, and you have him draw up divorce papers and have them served right away.

At the same time, you have temporary custody orders for your child submitted to the court. First in filing on temporary orders get temporary custody until a hearing with both parties can be scheduled by the court.

You then stop by the police department and report the threat to kill you, and obtain a protective order. Wait until the police deliver the order and escorts your husband off the property. Go by the local Ace Hardware on the way home and purchase new locks for the doors, they cost less than $20 each and are cheaper than a locksmith. It only takes a screwdriver to remove two screws to change door locks.

Once he finds out you have the controlling hand in this situation, he will call you from his motel room. Make sure he knows you do not have to tolerate his conduct. Then take a week or so to decide if you want to (a) Reconcile after he attends abuse classes. (b) Go through with the divorce and get everything including custody and a child support order, then reconcile and if he ever gets out of hand again, you just have him removed from the house. (c) Go through with the divorce and find someone who treats you better.

When he gets up and is able to talk, tell him you're disappointed he didn't bring up the conditions with you or the house until he was out of control. Let him know that if he ever threatens you, or your connection to your child again, you are going to walk and never look back, but that you know it's a stressful time for both of you and you want to give him a chance to work things out. Then do. Men react very strongly when they're afraid, and he's obviously afraid of this baby. Just let him feel like you're a team and can work on your problems together. He will probably beat himself up for that outburst more than you ever could, anyway.

Anger usually enables a person to say what they really feel. You have to ask your self some questions. If you had a job and could support your self, would you put up with your husband treating you this way? Isn't it a fact that you have convinced your self that you love this man and that's your excuse for why you put up with his emotional abuse? But what you are really saying between the lines is that you are financially dependent on him, therefore you have to detail with his abuse, because you don't have the income to leave him and support your self and your children? My advice to you, get a job. When you feel confident that you can support your self, your attitude will change. You won't put up with his abuse anymore, because you know you don't have to. Who knows, maybe your husband's behavior toward you will change too, because he knows you have an income and can leave him if he doesn't start treating you right.

I would be extremely hurt if my husband said that to me.

Your husband is blaming everyone you when you didn't purposely get pregnant and apparently he is forgetting the fact that it takes 2 people. So if he wants to blame you, he needs to blame himself as well.

I would like to say it's the alcohol speaking but I can't say that for her.

he said that he feels like a maid-does he work or is he a stay at home dad? If it is the latter that is probably why is saying the things that he did because he isn't working and feels incompetent in a sense.

I would give him time to calm down and then try and talk to him again when he is sober. If he lashes out at you again, leave and wait for him to calm down and contact you.

Oh my god that is horrible!!! You don't need him. Words like that can't just be an oops sorry I was drunk but im sorry. I would get your other child(ren) away from him asap. Don't think about it as he's planning to hurt you. We are all somebody's someone else. You need to get a restraining order. And some social support to help you t hrough it. Family, friends, whoever can help you stay strong. Good luck!

im so sorry honey wow thats some hateful things to say to a pregnant woman with his kid wow i would take him to court and get full custoidy of the kid and thats a form of emotional abuse.

Your husband has a drinking problem. He is also abusive and has threatened to kill you.

Call a 'abused women's hot-line'. Seek legal advise. Get your finances together, and leave. Be where he cannot find you.

He was just drunk and probally scared about this other kid and took it out on you. Leave him if you can go stay with parents or friends.

I would recommend basic sex ed classes and permanent surgical birth control for all

involved parties before any further gene pool contamination can take place

You got to talk to him and make him understand that it's not a big problem even though it may be..I think he overreacted so take it easy girl..