Why won't my husband find a real job?

That's a really hard question. It usually takes 3 to 5 years for a business to become profitable, so if he's making money and the business is growing and there's potential for it to continue growing and he likes what he's doing and you have the ability to support the household while his business is young, then I'd support his ambitions. If the business is as dead-end as his job was, if he's not putting any real effort into it, if he will NEVER contribute more than $2000 per year to the household, and if you can't make sufficient income to keep you out of the poorhouse, then you would be well within your rights to ask him to share the responsibilities for bringing in enough money to make it. If you're just mad because you do all the housework, don't make it about his job, make it about that.

I'm sorry that you are living beyond your means, have gone broke and are worried about your children. That is stressful.

Many people in this country are in the same boat. One of my kids lost his house, everything he once owned and his family too. He was also living beyond his means. I known that it is painful and stressful and hard.

What most people do is downsize their home, get rid of the cars they don't hold the title to or sell at least one that they do hold title on, quit their clubs, their expensive hobbies, sell things they'd rather keep, buy a little red wagon to pull the babies around in and figure it out. Like generations of families that have gone on before.

Something likely happened on the job site that put an end to your husband's heavy equipment job. Sometimes what is done can not be undone. Perhaps that job is not available to him to return to. My guess is that is why he "decided it was enough" and won't go back to it.

You both made these babies on the income you have. Two of you did it together. And you are both working to try to make things work. Men don't take a 40 hour a week job at 16hr if they don't care. Sometimes a dream has to take a few steps backwards and in another direction. Does not mean all is lost. Just taking a different route.

Why are you complaining? At least your Husband has a job! You chose to have all those debts in your life, house, cars, bills, etc. When you have more of those you will have more issues.

We live in a city that was voted 2nd worst for job employment and my poor Husband has been looking for a job for quite a while but no one wants to give him the opportunity to do so. It's not so bad that he is at home because we have a 4 year old that is in preschool which he cares for while I'm at work. It's been working just fine for my family of 4, I only work 24 hours a week, making $16 an hour and we are able to make ends meet, do family activities, eat out even travel out of town once a month to visit family. Easy for us because we chose the simpler life. No mortgage, no car note (never again), just the usual bills. Probably because we can actually save money and only use it on the necessary things for our children and for us when it's needed, no impulse spending, no bad habits, etc. Piss me off that I know of people who complain about their jobs, who doesn't care what they do at work while so many others out there have had such a hard time even obtaining one.

One key to this is missing. Why did he quit those jobs? Generally, future performance is based on past history. His doesn't seem so good.

He doesn't get to quit a job unless he has one to go to. If he's not making enough money, he gets to work overtime or a second job. He can deliver pizza's on nights and weekends.

For you: Stop having kids with this guy. You two can't afford children. Or, keep him at home taking care of the kids if you have a skill you can support your household with.

Seems the guy can't or won't keep a job. A very bad sign for your future with him.

I guess this is something you need to work out with the guy. Maybe if you cannot support your family on $17.00 per hour, you ought to downsize your spending.

"He finally quit his job at the autobody shop when we found out I was pregnant."

And this was not a gigantic red flag to you??

I blame the sense of entitlement and lack of motivation on the 0bama administration.