I feel like I have to lie to my husband about EVERYTHING!?

you are wrong in some ways and right. You NEED to tell him how you feel. Honestly, of you always have to lie to him and his anger never stops, you may just not be the perfect match.

I can relate. My ex was like this. I'd have to tell white lies cos he'd get sh!tty at me if I spent even just $2 at the shops, we had a joint bank account and he was controlling. Well I am not with him anymore and there is no way I'd have a joint bank account again with anyone. It was ok for him to buy video games and all that though. It got to the point where my ex (when we were together) wouldn't even let me go grocery shopping on my own.

Good luck, I don't really know what advice to give, maybe just not say anything. Do you have your own money? Are you working or anything?

If you were going out spending thousands of dollars each day and not paying bills, rent/morgtage etc then I would understand, but you're just spending a few dollars here and there. You shouldn't have to lie about that and your husband shouldn't be overreacting.

I'm so sorry to see that you are going through this. I am going thru a seriously abusive situation myself, and what I am trying to do is applying to jobs so I can have my own money. It's just a suggestion... maybe if you work and make your own money you can save up, and he won't complain it's HIS money you are spending. Let him pay for ALL the bills, and save all the money for yourself, preferrably in a separate account that he can't know of. Do not facilitate for men! They will suck you dry if you let them and throw you out when they don't need you. I'm speaking from experience. Be independent!

Here's a disposable phone. Call an attorney and then do what Katie Holmes did. Seriously, you need to get away from this control freak. He isn't going to change. Things will become worse. Eventually there will become a time where you won't be allowed to hold any cash because "you can't be trusted with money".

His money is not just his money unless you are both working and have separate checking accounts.

Lies eventually come back to bite you in the butt. Quit the lies. You will end up telling one lie to cover up another. Normally when you are married the money belongs to both of you no matter who earned it unless you have made some other agreement. Someone needs to make him understand that.

dont worry on this small matter of lying...i am also in the same boat used to be than i started spending and if he says anything i bluntly lie in his face and in that way he dsnt yell or shout..he whinges all the time for money cries for money...but i spend and i dont care what he says..dont let him control you...if he is around step away into the kitchen or bedroom or switch the tv on...u dont have to tell him everything..dont spend extra but do watever you want to and dont tell him...hes a control freak like mine but i have learnt to stand up and spend and if he whinges i turn my back on him and walk away...if he yells you yell back in that way sooner or later it shuts them off..like mine sometimes i just tell him to shut up and he really does...who cares who says that wife not allowed to talk back this is a world where you are on your own and stand up on ur feet...

Counseling would by my suggestion. That is really stupid and irritating behavior on his part but probably very fixable. It just might take him hearing it from someone other than you. He probably feels like your nagging, but he certainly can't accuse a counselor of that. He might be forced to take a better look at himself.

That's verbal and emotional abuse. So why are you staying in an abusive relationship?

Feeling uncomfortable in you own home sucks. Either tell your husband his attitude needs to change or you will be changing his living arrangement.

He's a control freak. You need to understand that he won't change and figure out if u want that in your life.

Divorce would probably get the message through.