What should I do with our marriage?

Stresses run high during the first few years of a marriage. Your relationship with your husband is also suffering from the stress of how it began. You got pregnant before you got married and had a son, then got married, and got pregnant again. There is a lot of stress in a relationship upon the birth of a child and having a newborn (or nursing) baby in the house. Your second pregnancy (and child) increased the stress level again.

Add to that, the physical separation of your husband from his family (i.e. the reason he took the job in the first place), the lack of closeness and not being able to see or spend time with HIS wife & children, and his frustrations are understandable.

He said some things that were hurtful, and for that I am sorry. Try to recognize how difficult this is for him ( You already KNOW how hard it has been on YOU). I am not excusing him for what he has said, but trying to help you understand his point of view.

Are you tied down to where you live presently? Is relocating the family to ND a possibility? That way, you would be with him. If not, then you need to make your best effort to discuss the situation with him when he returns. Let him know how much you miss him, and want him back. Make him 'feel' wanted, not just 'needed'. Nobody want to feel that they are being 'used'.

You may also want to seek counseling from a trusted source, like a pastor, or an older (i.e. mature) married couple for ideas on how to cope with this problem.

Wow, he sounds awful. I have a three month old. At least he works mine stays home with me everyday saying he's "helping" me with the baby. I'm a woman that believes a woman should stay home and rear the kids and men should work and bring home the money. If a woman wants to work we should be able to but we shouldn't be put down for not. Furthermore, staying home with a two week old and other kids is a huge job. My boyfriend wanted to have sex with me at two weeks too. I don't know whats up with that because now he only gives it up once a week. What happened to all that sex you needed? I would wait the full six weeks. I certainly don't think it's a good idea to reward him with sex just because he has to work out of town to support his family. He shouldn't be calling you fat either. That really pisses me off. He will get over all of this. Just keep doing the best you can do. Let your body heal. Get plenty of rest. Stay calm. Be the best mom you can be and the rest will fall into place.

Were you working before you had the baby? Are you plannning on going back to work or finding a job? I ask these questions because it sounds like your husband resents you because you are not bringing any income in the house and he has to sacrifice seeing his family because you wont work. If this is the case I suggest you get up and help him out. These days it takes to people working to make things happen for a family. Put yourself in his shoes!

listen...ur husband is only thinking about himself..he didnt have to quit his job..just got another to supplement ur income..for a bit ,dont let him make u feel like this is all ur fault..if ND was such a big phuckin deal..then why did he agree to go..there were other options back home..just do what u gotta do but stay strong and try to get back to work when u can..dont take no ****..