What does my fiancee mean when she says she needs space?

No one can know exactly what she means except her. On the other hand, anyone can see that it's Not Good (tm).

When she says she doesn't know how she feels about you it means that she used to feel good around you and now she feels unhappy around you and she doesn't know if she'll ever get those happy feelings back. The question is, what are you doing to make sure that she is happier with you around than she is when you are not around?

If it were me, I would spend the ten days praying that she will still want to go on the trip with me. I would also try to help her remember the good times we have had together. Maybe find an excuse to drive past the place where we first met or had our first date and snap a photo. Then text it to her with a little note that says something like, "Drove past here today. Thought of you." NOT with something like "pls, pls come back to me, I miss you so much!"

If you manage to get her on the trip, you need to make sure that she has a blast. If she wants to talk about things, just let her say what is on her mind without interrupting, arguing or contradicting her. Just listen, let her know that you understand and that you intend to do better. You need to make sure that she feels that talking with you is safe and in order to feel safe, she needs to feel loved, supported, respected and valued.

Here are some of the things that I used to do and sometimes still do (I am a work in progress) that sometimes made my wife feel that talking to me wasn't safe:

- I would get defensive. I needed to learn to listen to her without raising any objections no matter how unfair I felt she was being.

- I would not listen carefully. I have a bad habit of thinking what I am going to say next instead of really listening to people. I am trying to cure that by listening carefully and repeating back what I hear to make sure I understand.

- I would criticize her or her ideas. I have learned that I must never criticize anyone, but especially my wife. Really. Never. I can say what I am feeling, but never imply that it is her fault. If I absolutely cannot help myself because holding it in will drive my every waking thought, then I practice what is sometimes called a "criticism sandwich." I compliment her, criticize her as gently as I can while still feeling I got something off my chest and reassuring her that it is no big deal. And then I compliment her again.

- I would argue with her. I had to learn that her feelings are hers. They aren't right or wrong, they are feelings.

- I would talk over her. I often get excited about my ideas and what I have to say and sometimes I have the tendency to talk through people, cut them off or complete their sentences for them. It's a terrible thing to do because it says, "I don't respect you or your opinions." I try to practice listening carefully and leaving a little pause between listening and answering just to make sure that I am not cutting people off (I'm still not very good at it).

- I would dismiss her concerns. Sometimes things that seemed important to her, seemed unimportant to me. That's wrong. If it is important to her, it needs to be important to me.

- I would try to fix her or her problems. Most people, when they bring up a problem, want someone to listen and commiserate. On the flip side, most people who hear a problem want to fix it. I needed to learn to stop trying to fix her and her problems and just listen. Sometimes I will ask her if she is looking for a solution and that I have some ideas. If I get her permission, then I will offer suggestions, but not before.

When you talk I suggest you bring up good feelings. Tell her when she did something that made you feel special. Appreciate her out loud to her and to others in her presence.

Another way I have found to bring up good feelings is to bring up fun, shared experiences. You can ask, "Remember when we first met?" or, "Remember that time that we..." and then just describe your memory of it. This will bring to mind all of the great feelings she had and it's almost like you get credit for them again.

I hope you find this answer helpful.

Okay the "i need space thing" its NOT a way to break up with someone, being a women myself and having said that my self i know.

It means she's "bored" o the relationship, she wants to feel excited to see you again, get butterflies when you walk in the door and when you kiss her or touch her. Hence the space thing, you go away say to friends or parents house and she stays where she is, you go back in a few days and she'll be all excited and want to be with you. Which will make the trip more exciting. :D

Hope that helped a little.

I am a woman and if I said that to my boyfriend it would mean that I am not interested in a relationship at the moment, but I don't have any ill feelings for you. When a woman says that they want to miss you, that means they never did. It seems like you or you both are trying to make things work or more so force things to work against what is natural. Sometimes it is best to not hold on so tight and let her make moves to show she is interested in you. That might mean you may not see her for a while or that your relationship will be delayed for a bit.

She feels she doesn't love you the way she did because she no longer misses you when you are away and she wants space to think about where the relationship is going in the future and when girls say they want space it usually means they want to end the relationship, be prepared for the worst, Good Luck

the problem I see is if you are always away to begin with and she does NOT miss you while you are gone - big problem

she sees what the problem is and is actually trying to fix it but that does not mean it will work

what made her fall in love with you? she wants that back - that feeling - you are just like a friend to her - not an exciting fiance - get that back and get her back

sweep her off her feet on vacation and make it one she will NEVER forget - good luck

You are on the virge of losing her. This calls for drastic action. Tell her you met someone else, and you will miss her dearly, but you feel that the both of you have grown apart. If she really loves you, she will freak out, get jealous, and fight to get you back. If she doesn't come back to you, then you are no worse off then when you started.

rul, even an elementary school's student would see a complete lack of logic in the following sentence about a duy and a gal, " We identified where we went wrong and all, but she says she doesn't know how she feels about me anymore."

DO YOU?

she will leave you if she gets abetter option. Actially she is confused that are you really a good ooption. You people are immatured and have many things to experience

"Need some space" = "I am screwing or going to screw another guy".

I PROMISE you.