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I work with a girl (consider her a friend) whose cousin died this week in a car accident. She left a husband, 6 kids and 2 grandkids behind, all of whom needed her. I don't know these people but their situation really burdened me...the family was rather poor even with 2 incomes and now down by a whole breadwinner...and losing the mom means that most of the household management has been disrupted. A bunch of us at work all talked about collecting some stuff to give the family. But no one really organized it for several days and I didn't want to press it, because being Christmas time, I knew that most of my coworkers were stretched thin.

I don't make a lot of money but I have simple needs so I can usually do what I want within reason, and it super bothered me that this family was having such a hard time. I also am pretty sure that one of the reasons I have enough is because I continually give some of it away. So I decided to get some things for them on my own without my coworkers. I did big. I couldn't help myself. Everything I saw seemed necessary and I found some excellent bargains. I went to Big Lots and the grocery store and got a bunch of food, toiletries, and laundry detergent...filled the back of my hatchback and took it to my friends house so she could deliver it to her family. I purposely kept work out of it, hoping to keep everything private.

Next thing I know...my friend brags me up to everyone at work, and some of the others are pissed and saying that I have left them no room to help out. But they didn't do anything for days. And this is such a difficult situation that I really didn't make a dent in helping them...there is still plenty to opportunity for everyone to pitch in.

Why is everyone so hateful?

Tigger · Accepted Answer

You didn't do anything wrong.  They are jealous and this is how they show it.  It is so much easier for some people to be negative than positive.  I think what you did was care for someone in need.  I have done that a lot of times.  It makes some of us feel good to help others who are deserving of our help.  Some people just don't get it, that you can help others no matter who you are and you don't have to depend on others to go along with you.  You helped in their emergency, the others can help sustain them, its that simple...

Anonymous · Answer

They are hateful because it really goes to show how awful of a human being they are!


It is not about you, it is about them looking bad!


Good for you for standing your own ground and having a heart..especially around this time off year, where being broke is more common due to the gifts everyone is buying.




Ignore there comments, if they get nasty..then confront them...haha

Ask them, why didn't they do something when they could have?..

there is no excuse..they just care about not being looked heartless.

Robert O · Answer

No.  You did right.  Not everyone can give that large, and their cries of discontent speaks of that.  But despite their cries, it is what it is.  They just wish they too can give like that.  But not everyone can.  Just represent like you did and keep it low key.  You did everything right.  It exemplifies what this holiday is all about.  Don't mind the haters, mind who you did good for.  That's the real path.  Christmas is not political, it is coming together.

Vergina · Answer

For awhile I thought you'd say your friend got pissed off with you
If it's not the case don't worry about the others, you did the right thing
If they feel resentful mention to them that there's still time for them to outdo you
That family needs all the friendly competition now
And please, keep them in your thoughts and prayers all year long 
Merry Xmas!

Anonymous · Answer

I am in full agreement with Maveri!!!

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