Tired of being cute and overlooked by guys?

Hi Buzz Buzz,

No BF yet age 16? That's OK. Consider yourself lucky. You haven't missed much. Why? Because lots of teenage guys are horndogs. Those types of guys are selfish, and are typically only interested in what girls have below the neck (i.e., they don't care about the girl or her feelings).

BTW, most nice guys would prefer a cute girl rather than a 10. Why? Because a 10 is usually high maintenance, spoiled, vain, selfish, useless, arrogant, unappreciative... and a 10 would probably also have expensive tastes.

Exactly how do you get a guy to notice you? Make good eye contact, ask a few generic questions (assignments, homework, whatever), be nice & pleasant, and have a friendly smile. Laugh at his jokes. Tell him "thank you" if he helps you with a school homework problem. Give him a compliment. Repeat daily.

When dating, don't go in for any heavily passionate kissing too fast. Why? Because it’s not a good idea to move too quickly in a relationship. Be reasonably assured that you are with the right person… who is kind, trustworthy, and honest… before acting romantic. That means you really should know him pretty well... and that takes longer than just a few dates or a few FB conversations.

Don't believe everything a guy whispers into your ears. Keep in mind that a guy with a bunch of smooth lines might be a player who has practiced those lines on dozens of other girls (i.e., indicating that you don't mean anything to him).

So... assuming that you might want to avoid a few of the more common dating pitfalls, how about some free advice about guys and dating? OK.

In order to protect your tender heart, it's a good idea to be cautious about the types of guys that you would be willing to date... and watch out how you behave, too. Why?

- Because lots of teenage guys tend to be frogs… not princes.

- Because teenage guys will typically want to go way past kissing if the girl allows it.

- Because many teenage girls are simply too vulnerable, too impulsive, and too emotional.

- Because lots of teenage girls frequently have poor judgment.

- Because teenage guys are typically only interested in what's in a young girl's panties.

- Because teenage guys often don't care about a girl's feelings.

- Because the types of teenage guys who are bold enough to be dating are frequently focused solely on satisfying their own selfish desires.

- Because teenage girls tend to equate love with kissing and sex (translation - they get their heart trampled), while most young guys don't (translation - they simply say "See ya later!").

- Because after the inevitable break-up, a teenage girl will likely feel as though her world has collapsed.

- Because any older guy who would date a young and vulnerable teenage girl is a creep.

What are some hazards of dating? Here are a few -

1. Watch out for those handsome players or creeps who might pretend to like you, because you could easily fall for their phony attention and smooth lines of crap. Beware - they'll use your body and then dump you like a sack of potatoes.

2. Decide on your physical limits before you start dating, and stick to those limits. Getting too excited while being alone together with your date or your steady BF is not the time to start thinking about setting limits... your judgment will be clouded, and your BF's judgment will be long gone.

3. No matter what, don't date any older adult guys who pretend to be interested in you. They're even worse than players your own age... and like the players they'll only be interested in one thing... and it won't be your mind.

Ironically... jerks, players, and liars are often fun and good looking. Why? Because there are lots of foolish girls out there who have the following issues:

- No parental supervision

- Lack of a good Dad in their lives, so they readily accept the attention from jerks (because they crave male love and approval)

- Are gullible and easily lied to

- Allow guys to quickly become too physical

- Give away their virginity based on the lies a jerk will whisper into her ears

- Don't mind getting treated like crap

- Do not learn from their mistakes.

How can you keep your heart from getting trampled? Keep your panties on until you get married. That'll eliminate 99% of the creeps, losers, and players... and mistakes of passion... which will make your life much happier and simpler in the long run. You'll also be protected against pregnancy, STD's, and excessive heartache.

Final advice? Don't make too many stupid decisions, don't drink too much booze or take any drugs, don't have friends who drink heavily or take drugs, listen to your Mom and Dad, read the Bible (the Gospel of John is a good place to start), and then everything will turn out fine.

Those are a few things for you to think about, Buzz Buzz. Good luck!

Signed, PC

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Keep being yourself and the right guy will come along! Cute isnt a bad thing, some guys prefer that to "hot" anyway. Hot can mean "dull," or "easy." Try watching the movie Easy A... Hot and popular isnt all its cracked up to be.