My wife wants me to have sex with her lesbian friend so her and her partner can have a child. Should I?

I have a coworker who spent $10,000 to get her girlfriend pregnant. They saved for a long time to make it happen. But taking that time and saving that money proves their stability and ability to provide.

Don't put yourself at risk here. Let them do what it takes at their own risk and expense.

Dude, there are red lights all over this question and all of them point to NO!!!!! I should tell you that I am gay. First let's talk about legal ramifications. All of them are there. They say now that they won't pursue you financially, but what if they fall on hard times and view this as a way to get income? Who's to say they will stay together as a couple? You will always be that child's father and people and the law never go on forever like they say they will. Adoption is the better option here and if they can't afford a sperm bank or adoption, then where's the money going to come from that it will take to raise this child? What if the child is born with physical or mental defects? Defects that require substantial medical bills. Dude, they'll be knocking on you door faster than you can say, "I'm flattered, but you should really try to adopt."

Children come from love between two people not technicalities. There are many parentless children out there who would love to be adopted by any loving couple. My money says they wouldn't care if their parents are straight or gay. They want a family, not an institution.

I know you know that the ramifications of this decision won't be settled simply by asking a question on YA. Consider this carefully!

This would have to be a conversation that all 4 of you have together. If your wife has no problems with it, then there should not be any ramifications in your relationship with her. The other details are stuff that you and your wife have to figure out with her friend & their partner. Hope everything works out for you.

Get a lawyer to draw up some paperwork for them to sign releasing you from any paternal obligations. It should also have a schedule dictating when and how often sex is to occur. I recommend that it be written up such that you are entitled to sex with both women until both are confirmed pregnant.

God that's a lot to ask of someone!

Personally I wouldn't. Call me selfish but I think its too much to ask of a guy. You need to ask them where you'd fit into the child's life. If what they says corresponds with what you want then that's one reason to go for it. But only do it if your comfortable with doing it - which is probably not going to be something you can decide overnight.

Good Luck with making this decision x

Well the only down side about that is to watch out if they are con artists, because legally, she can go for child support. I would go to your local law agency and get the information on all of that.If you do not want to have sex, you could have your sperm, and give it to them to deposit into their vagina

In a way it is a good thing you are doing. IF you wife told you to do it then talk it over with her . DO IT

you can go to a sperm bank and give the lady a sperm donor so you don't actually have to have sex with the lesbian and if you do she wont realy be a lesbian anymore

agreed with Lance there is such things as sperm banks that I guess lesbians or people that can't have a kid go and ask for sperm so they can have a child

No, don't do that... :S that's just weird. Lesbians don't generally have sex with men to get pregnant (neither do gay men have sex with women just to have a baby for themselves and their male partner).