HELP! i lied to my parents?

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Ok I know what i did was terrible so please dont leave any comments saying how dumb it was bc i know it was really really stupid. I just need help.

Im a sophomore in high school and for the first quarter i received an F in biology. I have really strict parents (well not my dad, but my mom is really strict about grades and gets really upset). I really didn't want to disappoint them so I did something terrible. I changed my report card to all As and Bs even though I got an F and then all As and Bs. I showed it to them when the quarter ended and they were happy with the grades. I hid the real report card which had tape and cut out grades on it that I had copied in a really old purse that my mom gave me and put the purse in an old hamper that i thought shed never find.

Well turns out, she found it and yelled at me for a while and got me in trouble. My dad also took away my iPad and he is not allowing me to use my phone except for phone calls. They also won't let me drive anymore and I just got my permit a week ago. My dad is the kind of person that doesn't get really really mad about some things since he wasn't the best child himself. He usually gets over things pretty fast. This time he was really super mad and hit me a few times (nothing too terrible). He just hit me on my knee. I had never seen him so mad. He yelled the loudest ive ever seen him yell. Later that night, he texted me saying that he loved me but what I did was terrible and not excusable. He also said "You are the first child that I've ever hit which shocks me!" in the text because I have a twin and a younger brother. 
The next day he called me down and he was nice and we talked and he got over it (like he usually does). My mom also pinched me and she bruised me too (she already apologized for it). She is now being extremely nice to me and talking about how we can start the new year off well now. and how 2012 is going to be a "great year" for us. SHe and my dad are also in the middle of a nasty divorce so this year has been super hard for all of us.
My mom also asked me if there were any other lies multiple times and I told her no and she believes me....

Well, this is where i need help. In the beginning of the school year, she missed the night to meet all of my teachers and talk to them so she emailed my guidance counselor and asked to make appointments with all my teachers at the parent conferenced that you go to only if the parent wants to,(this is when she didn't know about my grades). Well i really didn't want her to go and find out about my F so I emailed her form a fake email from gmail and told her that it was cancelled pretending to be my guidance counselor. It worked because it showed up as her name. I also emaild the guidance counselor fr/ a fake email form my mom saying that she coulnd't go due to a work conflict.

When she found out, she was so mad and she emailed my guidance counselor and asked to meet with her to find out about how the F is going to affect my college career and she also emaield my biology teacher to meet with her about my F. Shes the kind of parent that wouldn'te tell the the school what I did because she doesn't want me to not be able to get into college and ruin my chances so she said that she wouldn't tell the school. 

Im afraid that the guidance counselor will say something like:
Guidance counselor: "Im so sorry that you couldn't make the parent conference after the first quarter. Amanda's biology teacher was hoping to speak with you then."
Mom: "Oh yes. I was upset 2 hear that it was cancelled."
Guidance counselor: "It wasn't cancelled...? You emailed me telling me you couldn't make it..."

Or something like that might happen? IM SO SCARED!!! I've considered telling my mom about this too becuase thats the right thing to do. But if I do that, she will be so mad and talk about how im a criminal & that what i did is against the law and yell at me some more! SHE WILL FLIP OUT!!! ALso, if she meets with my science teacher, my science teacher might say someting like "I was hoping to speak with you at the parent conference?" 

WHAT SHOULD I DO!?!?!??

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Tell the truth. It's better than letting your mom find out by herself, right? Also, keep praying and hope that Jesus can help u though this.  

Ps. Lying is a sin and u should not do it. Apologize to God and your mom. Your mom needs to know that she can trust u. And so does God.

? · Answer

Honestly, you should tell your parents. Not because it's the right thing to do, and not so you don't get into anymore trouble, but for the only reason that keeping this insides seems to be tearing you up. If you did not feel guilty, you wouldn't have typed this question on here.

? · Answer

I would talk to her and tell her what happened and that youre really sorry but you were afraid you would be in trouble. Tell her that you learned your lesson and ask for forgiveness.

? · Answer

Tell the truth because she'll get even more mad if you keep lying.

Anonymous · Answer

I was in the same position as you but I was 10 times worse. I lied about v.important grades, meetings, which uni I went to! My parents have huge expectations even though I got into a red brick uni I still lied because I was scared I wasn't like my siblings, who have gone to top 3 uni than 10. I got awful grades and retook them silently without my parents knowing and did the same email things like you. But it eventually took a toll and I wrote every single lie (little to small which were from age 13-19) and gave it to my parents. They were mad at me for a day but they were happy that I did it and knew I didn't want to hurt their feelings hence why I did it because I didn't want them to feel ashamed and trust me it's the best thing I've done, felt like I could breathe again

sactownAnthony · Answer

This is easy, just tell what you did, and still stick the same deal with not doing this stuff no more and how you already committed to making better choices start of the new year, also F isnt the end of your life, everyone stumbles in life but you just make the right adjustments and continue, even if it was your fault or not, you can still make it right

Jessica · Answer

Well, You really need to honestly tell you mom no matter how scared you are. You mom is probably upset due to not trusting you. So try telling your mom that you are trying to change and that you want her to trust you more by being honest. That's when you tell her, and you should probably cry to make it look that what you did was wrong and that YOU figure it out. It you don't speak about it, it will keep hunting you and the lies will just keep piling. 
Just talk to your mom and dad, and you dad might back you up.

Jack · Answer

Maybe you can talk to your teacher about the situation. If you have good relations with your teacher/counselor they can help to ease the situation. Hell print out what you typed and hand the letter to your counselor, its very well written :)

Gidget · Answer

You should tell her the truth.
Something like that probably will be said during the interview. And it's better for her to find out from you rather than find out somewhere else. It will also avoid an awkward conversation which reveals to the school what you did.
There is no easy way out, but accepting responsibility is an important thing.
Good luck.

? · Answer

Tell your mom. The punishment will be more severe if you do not.

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