Hubby problems............not sure how to go about it anymore? Please advise!?

I would hire a babysitter and just go out at least once a month. Either while he is there or working. You do need adult time, where you go out with friends and socialize to keep your sanity. However, he probably views his week off as a vacation and sees our job (stay at home mom too) as not a job since we are home. It's a 24/7 job being a mom and you deserve a little time for yourself. Tell him either he watches the kids while you go out or you're getting a babysitter even if he is sitting at home. It will make him feel foolish to have someone caring for his kids while he is there after an hour or two. As for the dishes and cleaning, just keep doing them. I have to handwash my dishes, drives me nuts. However, you tell him to wash his clothes and to keep tidy, that you're not his maid. It will cut back on some cleaning for you.

Ask your friends or even family members if they know someone they would trust around your kids to babysit. It's always best to hire someone that either a friend or family member referred you to than some stranger no one knows. Good luck.

I don't think its unreasonable to ask this at all

If in his week home he gets time out then so should you

It would give him quality time one to one with his kids

Yes he may work hard the other 3 weeks so you can be at home

But you also work hard with two little one,s

Just say if he did,nt work away and was home each night

You would be able to go out more

So once a month is not asking a lot is it

You cant make someone see what they refuse to see. While hes away fishing or working get grandma or a sitter for you to have some time for self. Then theres getting up before him & leaving so he will have to sit with the kids.

Pay a sitter and go out once a week with your friends. A few hours should be fine.

youre not wrong in asking for a day or two off but dont expect him to be your replacement. hes working hard and hes out of the house a lot but thats not picnic trust me. he feels lost probably, just as much as you feel trapped. see if your parents will take the kids for the week end or a trusted friend and you two go do something. you sound like you make BANK so go to a nice *** hotel and spa and get in the sona and swim get a massage all the works, wind down.

but dont expect your day off to be a drop of him having the kids unless hes cool with taking a few days to spend with his children non stop, remember you do that stuff so hes not really prepared for it and it will most likely not be fun for him and he will never want to do it again.

You have a tough job and the very least he can do is give you some time and help out so you can go do you.

He should not have said that to you. It's very disrespectful. He should not be dictating to you about how you need to spend your time. You sound like a devoted wife and mother and he needs to show his appreciation. I feel for you.

Maybe he's worried that if you left the house, you would find out his secrets that people around town already know. He's gone so much it makes me think he could have another girlfriend.

Even if he won't give you a break, you could call some friends or a babysitter to give you a break.

Get a sitter and go out.