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I truly do not understand girls. Am I getting played?
I met this girl about a year or two ago and we stopped talking (I faked (by accident) on her when we decided to hang out one time and I guess she got mad and stopped talking to me) about 6 months ago. During this time I was pretty sure I was friend zoned (told me she made out with this guy, however on another occasion that we met she tried to sneakily change her story by not mentioning that she made out with him, but instead saying that she just knew him) by her so I just moved on with my life. Recently, out of the blue, this girl texts me asking if i went to the same uni (Yes) as her. We had the typical text convo (whats up? and etc). I decided to text her "I miss you, Merry Christmas :)" and she responded "I miss you too <3, Merry Christmas". The "<3" was a bit unexpected b/c you know we haven't spoken in 6 months. New Years Eve came along and I decided to text her "Happy new years <3" and she responded back with "Happy new years <333". She asked if I was ready for next semester (books and such) and I said I haven't bought them yet and it was pretty obvious that she wanted to go with me by the questions (are you buying at store or online?) that she was asking. Would you say I'm still getting friend-zoned, being used, or something else?
@John I definitely agree about how difficult is to decipher texts, but when we did hang out she smiled and laughed a lot around me.
@Joe Thanks for the advice, appreciate it.
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- 9 years agoFavorite Answer
It seems easy to figure out. I was telling my friend the other day.
You and her, are friends.
Level 1- Friends
Level 2- Text
Level 3- Flirting
Level 3- Talking on the phone
Level 4- Ask out
Level 5- Date
Level 6- Kiss
Level 7- Second date.
Level 8- MORE THAN FRIENDS. OUT OF FRIENDS TERRITORY.
I did put a lot of levels there, like a guideline. You can skip levels, or change back and forth between the levels. One of you two, or both has to take the initiative to go the the next level. Right now, you are in level 2 to 3. Say you aim for level 4 and ask her out, and she says yes. Then you can progress to the next levels. If she says no, than you just stay where you are, level 2 to level 3.
We always wonder why we get friend zoned. One of the biggest reasons is that people don't try to go to the next level.
That was the rational logic behind it.
Emotionally speaking, do you have feelings for her? If so, ask her out man. You don't have much to lose. It is clear that she likes you. And no matter, what happens, you two can still be friends. So if it doesn't work out romantically, you two might become close friends. Those are rare...
But, if she says yes, and I'm pretty sure she will, who knows what this might lead up to... Perhaps gf, and bf...
Good luck! Thanks for answering my question.
P.S. My gf does have low self esteem... And she is worried about me cheating on her... -.-
- Anonymous9 years ago
I assume the 333 stuff is xxx's. She may just be texting to be friendly. Its hard to decipher texts, one dimensional conversational blinks that leave you bemused. If you want to be a friend keep it superficial. If you fancy her phone her up like the old days and ask her out for a coffee. It can be a long time if ever waiting for the opportunity or signals to let you know what she thinks.
- Anonymous9 years ago
well thats because you havent talked to her in so long.she probably is thinking ok why all of the sudden now im i back up or something.the best thing to do is break away from her and next time dont stop talking to someone who you really like.or they will think your a player or using a girl as a back up.