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How long should you date before being engaged?
I know there's no set time limit or something, just curious if you were a parent how long you'd want your kid in a relationship for before they take the plunge!
My boyfriend and I have been together 2 years, are both going to be 21 within a couple months, and literally are inseparable. My whole family loves him, to the point where my parents bought a car for him and I as a surprise (We both were driving trucks and the gas bill was eating a hole through anything we were saving for school), and his whole family loves me.
We both had been in really crappy relationships before meeting each other, and I was always the girl that had NO interest in anything serious or long term until I met him, and he had problems with being mature and was kind of a dork with no goals when we started dating. I'm now smitten, and he's matured so much you wouldn't even recognize him (has goals, has dreams, wants to accomplish things). We spend all our time together, aside from when we are at work, know anything and everything there is to know about one another, and have been talking about getting married for well over a year now.
He has a full time job and I am going to be going to school for a two year program this coming September.
Based on the info I've given (knowing it was short and it's hard to tell how two people will fare without knowing them) do you think it would be appropriate to get engaged this year and have a 2-3 year engagement?
I know a lot of people my age are like that but both of us don't drink, we don't go to clubs, we don't go to bars, we're homebodies. We went on a trip to Cuba together and spent it with a bunch of 60-70 year olds because we don't really "fit" with our age group. we spent 2 weeks going to bed at 9 and getting up at 6 so we could enjoy the beach for a while without other people.
Also, we literally have no way to cheat on one another, we work the same hours, spend lunch together, share our car so I pick him up and drop him off at work, and we sleep at one anothers houses every night!
I'm not forcing him into marriage...he's the one that brought it up originally. Also, neither of us plan on having children and are careful to avoid that at all costs. We're animal people, not children people haha
5 Answers
- 9 years agoFavorite Answer
You guys sound just like me and my man. Thats SO cute dude. & thats EXACTLY how i was too, not into serious relationships, and my boyfriend was sucha dork too.
After meeting me, he finally settled the hell down and got back on track & Now, i actually do want a serious relationship with him, (i mean we do, but i wanna go the next level too)
Honestly. you guys are gonna go through ALOT. Ive been thru hell and back, SEVERAL times, and trust me, its no fun. when married, those trips to hell become more frequent and frequent. the good thing of that is that in the end, it just makes you guys more stronger :)
You both sound like the ultimate couple.I honestly cant tell you if you should get married right now or what not, but with the info i have, i can see you guys together in the future :) never rush into marriage, its a big step. bigger than we think it is.the bills come into the relation,and all that crap.
I say finish school first,let him get surely settled with his job he has now,and bam.<3 be sure to be engaged for a couple months/years instead of rushing into marriage.
God bless you. good luck :)
- Anonymous9 years ago
Sounds like you have a great relationship so why not? Just make sure if you get married before you're done university that you stick to those plans and dreams. Sometimes, marriage has a way of putting everything you had in mind on hold. Stick to your plans and Good luck!
- 9 years ago
there's a lot of things can happen in 2 to 3 years.. its better to date someone for such a long time (at least more than 2 years to get to know them) and then you decide if you really want to marry that person. Getting married is a hard job, people jump into it like its a game, but its not. I would rather spend my time dating that someone for such a long time to know his personality and if i am really happy with him, and if he ask me to marry him, i will. Now, in your case, if you get engaged and then its gonna be 2 to 3 years before you get married, its gonna be 50 fifty chance of getting married. if the love is strong, then yes, most likely you two are going to end up together. but nowadays most people think they are in jersey shore and just cheat left and right. you know what i mean?
- Anonymous9 years ago
Normally 2 yrs is appropriate but that only applies when you are atleast 24 and over since most couple get pregnant around 26-27. But since you guys are 21 don't pressure him.
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- 9 years ago
Honestly...it's entirely up to you two and when you're ready you'll know. Just make sure you have some education and way to make a living!
