Confusion between my brother, his wife and I?

GerberaChic, I have a friend sorta like this. He tells me that people just come over. they have two kids and i am more the type to wait for an invite. So- I never much went there while other people visited all the time. I felt a little resentment due to this. He is a good friend BUT in this area- we don't agree.

in your case- sounds like his wife doesn't like your family for whatever reason. Has your family treated her bad? When a YOUNG couple get married- they often sorta graft to one side of the family. Also- sounds like your brother is a little whipped. If he had a good relationship with his family- this should not be an issue.

i advise fro you to call and say your in the area and on your way to stop by and say hello.

i do wonder if your side of the family has treated his wife in a way that makes her not like or feel uncomfortable with your side of the family. Maybe you don't realize or know the way she feels. Family members need to be able to talk and listen to each other.

I promise you this- if anything ever happened to them and you lost them- I bet you will wish you had done more. So- talk, talk and listen. Look back at the past for answers. Be supportive and be nice. Go visit and bring a house warming gift. I tell you that if you try to build a good relationship with your new sister-n-law, you might make a new friend and life will be better.

Best of luck

I think there is alot more going on here than some minor confusion. Who buys a new house, and then doesn't invite their family over? Unless there was a major falling out, it just doesn't make any sense.

If your sister-in-law is controlling, then maybe she is calling the shots, and your brother rather just not cause any friction between them.

As you said, what do you have to lose? Take a ride over and act like you were in the neighborhood and decided to just drop by. Bring a small gift, and say it is a housewarming present............See how she reacts. If her jaw drops, then you can get a better idea of who is "ruling the roost", ( so to speak).........................

Fo crying out loud his your brother do you really need an invite to go to his place ?Like the guy said why dont you call them and tell them that you want to come over and get what they say.Secondly they were the ones who moved to your neighbourhood and usually when somebody new comes in you that is the already resident are suppose to go over not the other way around.Sometimes when the person you meet every day doesnt say hie when you smile try saying it first ,it doesnt mean they dont want to sometimes it might mean they are just too shy to speak

Maybe they are just not social people.