I have befriended a young woman who is married, we go out a lot, even late nights sometimes. ?

That is completely inappropriate behavior for a married woman - young or not. You could avoid falling for each other by not doing it. Some people wash their hands of the responsibility if they aren't the ones who are married, but you do have a responsibility to be decent. This isn't it.

I would tell her that you like hanging out with her, but you think the friendship is headed in the wrong direction and cut ties with the tramp. You do not want the problems of being someone's affair partner. Not only could you wind up getting hurt by her husband/friends, but you will be labled a pathetic POS and decent girls won't give you a chance.

Of course it is possible for men and women to be friends and this includes after marriage.

Crucial issue is whether her husband knows and approves or its a secret. if its a secret i think its because you both know its wrong deep down and shouldnt be doing it

Whatever you do, don't screw up her marriage. I'm telling you it will haunt you. A guy like you came into my moms life an screwed up myfamily. My dad was ruined, depressed for months. DONT screw with her marriage

"Is she following for me" well since your going out I would guess yes she is following you. "or worse yet am i" How could you follow yourself?

Herkimer Derpington

You are asking for trouble. Period.