My family doesn't respect me?

Now before I continue please note I am not a typical winy teenager that wants to have more freedom or something, I grew up way too early, and for as long as I can recall I was always more concerned with the burning, global issues as opposed to the pointless teenage drama. I've always respected my family, and have always aimed to be the ideal son.

But, I can't help but feel I am not respected by my family. I love them, but none of them seem to realize how hard I work, and how I strive to be a good adult as opposed to the typical teen. I graduated with my AA two years early, I don't smoke or drink, I dont stay out late, I work, I've lent them thousands of dollars I initially wanted to save, I don't sleep around, I am not obnoxious, I take care of virtually every handyman task asked of me, and recently I moved the entire house almost entirely by myself, but they never seem satisfied. They've done a lot for me, and I cherish that fact, but it just never seems to be enough, I have to hear them complain constantly about minuscule things, and my mother is passive aggressive as hell toward me at times. I would confront them on these issues but because I am younger 95 percent of what I say just rolls off their shoulders as if I lacked the ability to have an adult conversation with them. It's a situation of how one may act if you talk to a kid, you listen, you laugh, and what they said just doesn't change one iota of your thinking. They criticize me, and constantly throw how hard they work to give me a home in my face, as if I ever said I didn't understand what they have done for me.

I hate to rant and sound like those annoying teens, but it's just eating at me, and causing me a great amount of internal frustration that I fear will cause me to lose it. I won't do anything dangerous or evil, but I fear a possible bridge could be burned if it continues like this. If anyone read my rant, and agrees my point of view is valid, please tell me how I may deal with the situation. Mind you talking to them won't change a thing, or will cause a massive argument, so any other solutions?