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how can i get my ex to spend time with our kid?

we got divorced last year, and we have a 3 year old daughter, who lives with me full time.

I would love for him to see her more (at the moment it averages about once or twice a month) because I think its important for her to properly know her father. He says he is too busy with work, etc.

On a purely selfish note, I live far away from my family, and I don't have anyone else to help me.

I love my life and I love my child, but sometimes I just NEED a break, and seeing as its his kid ... I think he should be the one to help out. Any suggestions? Ive tried talking to him, but the end result always seems to be him saying "Im too busy..." ><

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  • 9 years ago
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    You could remind him of his parental responsibilities and that a child needs a father to be reliable and caring - even when he is not with the mother. You could also try moving back home to be nearer your family. I wouldn't persevere too long though as your life will pass you by - try and rebuild your life without him, take a break from men for a while and focus on loving your daughter. Children are remarkably resilient. Good luck.

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    9 years ago

    Sorry nothing you can say or do 2 make him b a father its a choice. Just continue to b a good mother and he will come around hopefully one day.

  • 9 years ago

    Let me guess: you married this guy thinking you could change him into being a good husband, right? And now, post divorce, you still haven't learned that you can't change other people. When are you going to learn this very simple but important lesson that it is impossible to change people?

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