Why would a 40y/o man want to leave his family for me?

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I have been online chatting with this older man I am 20 and he is 40. But I do feel a connection between us and so does he. However he lives with his 2 kids and the mother. He says they are no longer really together but in good living conditions. I mean I am in Canada and he is in USA so for all I know it might or might not be true. But he has mentioned to me several times that he got with her when he was only 17 and had kids young...........He has said that talking to me he feels like he is 18 again in his heart that i make him happy etc..... now the plan was for me to just go visit a few days however he talks about wanting to actually do a life together not just the visit he wants me to live there he says he wants to get a place for both of us and that is something his kids will have to accept. I like the idea of it all but do you think it could last? I mean i believe you have your first love and your true love is life he says he feels its destiny.....i mean if u just want to screw around ok but he wants to make a life with me.... have you heard of men at that age leaving for a younger women? I mean i think they are done anyway even wihtout me in the picture.

Bobby · Accepted Answer

Don't be stupid.   Stay where you are and look for someone without kids who is closer to your age.    This guy may be lying through his teeth.

? · Answer

You would be a fool to get involved with this man.He doesn't want you he wants to re-capture his youth. Put yourself in his wife's shoes, They have been married for a longer than you have been alive! and a long term commitment as such with kids and real life, is going to go through rough patches. of course sometimes the grass looks greener and we all harbour resentments of what life should be and what it really is, in a longterm relationship this is easily directed at the partner instead of taking responsibility for our own choices and responsibilitys. This man does have responsibilitys 2 children and a commitment to a women he is still living with as a husband, even if he is not attached to her emotionally, he is in everyother way, and for you to get involved in this situation any more than you have already been would be shameful on your part. You sound very naive, this is an age old situation, and you are worth so much more. Do yourself a favour and leave him be, if he leaves his wife and kids for you how would you feel? how would he feel? is that a good foundation for a relationship? could you trust him? What sort of man does that to his family in order to try and chase after his own "long gone youth"   IS this really the sort of man you want?

Miss Mischief · Answer

Why are you fooling around with a married man? You are very selfish to even think he will leave his family. You are just trying to destroy a family.

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Why would a 40y/o man want to leave his family for me?

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