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Is he her boyfriend or slave?
Bit of a long story, but i'll cut it for you guys. Basically, two of my friends have been going out for about 9 months, i'm not close to them but everyone can see it's not right. She has basically turned him into her slave because she knows he loves her to much to stand up for himself. Truth is, she is nothing without him and he used to be a really cool guy until he became socially incapable(she isolated him too now) She tells him to buy her food all the time and never even offers him any afterwards. Because of this, she has put on a lot of weight and i know they are still doing stuff together. All my friends agree that she has to take care of her body and treat him like a boyfriend - not a slave. She has also ditched her friends and relies on him for everything. We want to talk to him about it and tell her to get a grip but we also don't want to meddle. If they break up, both of them will be really depressed and he won't go back to how he was.... He might not even listen....what to do?!
They might love each other but it's not a fair relationship in any way. Anyone can see it, me and my bf have been going out since they began too but we know our boundaries and have discussed that we would never tell each other what to do or try and manipulate each other.
Also, her gaining weight isn't something i am slagging her for, it just proves that she can't take care of herself and for his sake too...
P.S. they are not happy, anyone can see. If they were happy i would not have asked this question in the first place.
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- ayyyooooLv 49 years agoFavorite Answer
well from my experience with a lot of friends in the same situation, you need to find a way for you guys to get some "guy time" together. Once the guys start hanging out more and more, he'll realize how much more fun it is to be with you guys over her. If you see her treating him like a slave in front of your eyes, then bash her every once in a while. Be like "do you always have to tell him what to do?" They will both end up embarrassed, even though he'll stay quiet and she'll just scuff at you with some snot remark. like if he buys food and she eats it all be like "damn way to save some for the boy who got it for you" or "way to be selfish and eat the whole thing yourself". say it sarcastically but with truth too.
you could try taking to him about it, but he probably doesn't see what's happening because he's too in love, which is why a little diss to her here and there will help with that because it'll stop and make him think about whats going on.
as for her gaining weight, or taking care of herself, you shouldn't mention anything of the sort because that's not your place. you shouldn't care if she doesn't take care of herself. her appearance has nothing to do with you. but since she's treating your friend the way she is, her behavior is your business because in a way you're looking out for him because that's your boy.
Source(s): personal experience. - ?Lv 69 years ago
So, she's ignoring her friends for him, and he's ignoring his friends for her. I assume that "i know they are still doing stuff together" means they're having sex. He obviously likes her, and she obviously likes him.
So, here we have two people who like each other a lot and spend lots of time together. What's the problem? Let them be happy.
