What is wrong with a person who will not look you in the eyes when speaking to you?

He probably had a strong female disciplinarian as a child, and started to fear, rather than respect her. He probably does that to most women.

or

He finds you attractive, but doesn't want to disrespect you. He thinks that if he looks you in the eye, you will know and the embarrassment will be too much to handle.

Just a possibility. . .

My son has difficulty making eye contact - with everyone: friends, teachers, strangers, even me and his sisters and father. His teachers thought he might be Autistic, he was evaluated, and was diagnosed "high anxiety".

It's possible this guy is highly functional Autistic, and that you are not the only person he has trouble making eye contact with.

Regardless of the reason, however. . . you seem a bit miffed over it. I hope you will take a step back (if I am not mistaken, and if I am, I apologize), and tell yourself "whatever the issue is - it's his problem, not mine". Truth is, you just have no idea what this person's life is like, why he behaves the way he does in *any* event, let alone this avoiding eye contact . To ask would be a serious breach of etiquette, I don't recommend it. I am sorry, but to stay within the bounds of *good manners*, I am afraid this is just going to have to remain a mystery to you. :(

There are a lot of possibilities.

He might be from a culture which avoids eye contact as a sign of respect.

You might tend to wear revealing clothes, and he is trying to avoid looking.

He might dislike you, or dislike women in general.

He might have an autism spectrum disorder.

He might be put off by something about your speech or tone of voice.

He might just have an odd habit of looking away from the speaker, and not even be aware of it.

Maybe he is just like that. I have the tendency to look around when i speak to a person as well. Why ? Because I find it ackward to just stare at someones eyes even though Im speaking to them. It makes me feel uncomfortable. So I make eye contact but then look around and look back at them once more.

Even with my ex i couldnt just stare in her eyes.

Why does he matter so much to you, that's the real question. He is not related to you in any way, is he? Some people have this habit and I have a step sister who still would not look at me when she talk, or if she talk to me at all. Rude, yes. But I would suggest you brush it off and not create any tension with him.

I have exactly the same prob, gonna look at your answers if that is ok?

He may just be really nervous around you or he could just be very ignorant