Is it right to feel left out?

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*I'M SORRY IF IT'S LONG BUT PLEASE READ"
Please give me some suggestions. No mean comments please. I know this is not smth that i should feel left out about. You see i am the tease-able kind of friends. All my friends tease me because they know i won't get angry or anthing =____= sighh. Well, lets say i have six friends. Friend A,B,C,D,E and F. a,b,c,d are my bestfriends. in geography yesterday, we were meant to get in pairs to do some work together which is a kind of small project. I sit on the table with E and F since the teacher puts me with them. I was bestfriend with E last year but now we are only good friends. As for F we are just normal friends. A,b,c and d was on the same table and they got in pairs - a and c; b and d. Because the teacher put them together on the same table last term. They left me out. F got with her best friend and i was left with E. Also F teased my about my bestfriends leaving me. No one likes E not even my best friends. (also no one likes F) My bestfriends acted like they did not care about what happened and kept on talking happily. Although C only cared and ask who i am with. The others did not care and after class they left me alone at the locker because i was getting my books. So basically i wana know if they are good best friends and is it right to feel left out?

Dee in CO · Accepted Answer

Seriously?  First, you want to quantify your friends, saying some letters are best friends of yours and some are only good friends.  Then, the teacher pairs some of the friends up, and you ended up with a friend you didn't like as much as the others.  You were hurt that your other friends weren't as upset not to be paired up with you.  Come on.  

Time to grow up and realize that you can't always expect to be with your besties.  Sometimes you have to do without and work with other people you don't like so much.  Sometimes you just have to do what you're told without complaining.

Your friends teased you because they knew that you were upset that you didn't get to work with them.  They avoided you because (I'm guessing here) you didn't have the class to hide the fact that you didn't want to work with the person you were paired with.  Did you make the person feel bad, like she wasn't good enough to be with?

School is for learning things.  It's not for hanging out with all your friends.  Suck it up.

het_chick · Answer

I wouldnt worry. You are all still young and will switch friends many many times. You are all worried about what others are thinking and don't want to be left out. I would make the best of the situation and not let the others see that it bothers you and i wouldnt let it bother you. Someone will always be left out and someone will always not be liked by others. So, just be happy and make jokes about it and move one. Realize that you are only in 7th grade and you all are still acting pretty silly (you will look back on this one day and laugh). But don't worry, because it's your age and your maturity level and you can't do much about it, they are all in the same boat as you. Sometimes, others really dont care or they really dont want to say anything because they dont know what to say to you when you get stuck with someone they dont like either and they dont want to get stuck with them and therefore are afraid of you asking them or them accidently letting it slip out, to change partners. Show the other girls that you are having fun with E (or whoever you get stuck with) and then they will be jealous. And instead of not liking E, get to know her and put you judgements aside or your hatefulness for whatever reason, aside. Life is too short to hate others, especially for something stupid. 
Hope this helps and good luck in gymnastics tomorrow

Anonymous · Answer

Wtf ?!! 
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