How to find someone who was adopted at birth (10 Pts)?

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Alright, so I have a friend who is trying to put together her family tree. She has most of her family located, except for a brother of hers. He was put up for adoption 45 years ago, Long before any sort of computerized records were used. He was not given a name at birth, and the birth certificate they have located only has a last name and her parents' names listed as the birth parents. It was a closed adoption, so the names of the of the adoptive parents were not recorded. My friend has hit a dead end. 

So, they have already enlisted the help of Ancestry.com, consulted the Mormon database, and done just about everything short of making a road trip all the way to the hall of records, in the city where the brother was born. 

My friend is trying to do whatever she can to avoid hiring an investigator or handing money over to a questionable "find a person" website. She may have to resort to that, but if there are any other options short of that, I would love to hear about them. 

Thank you very much for your help.

GenevievesMom · Accepted Answer

For purposes of the family tree project, just call him "Baby Boy" for a first name. Every genealogy software has an "adopted" relationship that you can put in there. Yes, it's normally used to show a brother or sister brought into the family, but it in this case it will signify the relationship as best you can describe it.

A funny thing happens when you fill in that slot, the information inevitably comes to you. I would suggest going to the adoption boards that link adopted children with their birth parents. There are a couple of dozen of good ones staffed by very knowledgeable volunteers to help you.

Maxi · Answer

So the only thing you know is that this person is male, the date of birth and the bio parents names.....

It is/was a closed adoption and the sister of the adopted un named person wishes to find him

ancestry.com. the LDS, and the federal Government are not going to 'find him' so you can hire as many people and investigators as you wish, it is not going to happen.

The adopted person is the only one who can 'make things happen'....not his sister, not his parents...... all they can do is make sure they are available to be able to be found if/when he decides to look...... whether he could get his file open depends on where it is, what laws/rules are NOW in place, if he knows he is adopted, which he may not............

I am sure this is not what you wanted to hear but I really don't care about 10 points, what I do care about is facts and the sad fact that people think ancestry.com  can somehow wave a magic wand and find adoptees.....I know they pretend to be able to find your family but they are only a commercial website.........................................................

Nothingusefullearnedinschool · Answer

This is strange; you query is misleading. Finding a person has nothing to do with whether they were "born of woman", by Caesarian, or adopted. (In you scenario, adopted OUT.)

So, check with any relative that might have a clue; check at the site of the adoption; place ads in newspapers; try Facebook and all those social sites.

By the way, 45 years ago the military & other sections of the Government had computer records; what you might mean is that the personal computer (PC) became common in the early 1980s.

Joyce B · Answer

You are asking a question that belongs in the adoption section, where you will probably find people who can help.  You can also look here for more advice.

http://www.ehow.com/how_2124466_find-siblings-after-adoption.html

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