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Please Help, I Need Advice?

This may be kinda long but please answer.

So i've known this guy for about 8 months, but just as friends. people kept telling me this guy liked me but I didn't believe them because I really liked him and didn't think he would like me back. Fast forward to now.

We went out on a date a few weeks ago to the movies and lunch, we had a great time and he asked if he could kiss me, so I said yes. he dropped me home and texted me about 30 minutes later saying he had had a great time and he would see me on the Friday (we went out on the Wednesday) at karate. while we are at karate he asks me if I am free the next week and I say yes but we didn't make any firm plans. anyway, he texts me on the Sunday to ask if I am free on the Monday to go to Wet n Wild water park. we kiss, hold hands, he walks with his arm around me, etc. again we have a great time, and this time I text him first to say thanks for the day, and he says he really enjoyed it too. So on the way home he asks if I am free on the Wednesday, but I wasn't so we made plans for the Friday...

Heres where I get confused: We go to the movies again and we kiss and hug, then while the movie is on he starts touching my boobs, I liked it so I didn't ask him to stop, and he kept asking me if it was okay that he was doing it and i'd say yes. then he starts running his hand between my legs on top of my clothes so I was okay with that, then a little while later he puts his hand down my pants and starts rubbing my clit, at this point I was a little uncomfortable so I asked him to stop which he did straight away, asking me if I was alright and that he was sorry. I said it was okay and we just keep hugging and kissing, when the movie ended we went for lunch and then he starts driving me home. on the way home I ask him where we were (between us) and he says he really likes me and wants to be more than friends, which is great because so do I. so I ask him if we are bf and gf and he said he wasn't ready for that and he didn't want to hurt me.

Later I texted him saying sorry for making him uncomfortable asking what was between us and he replied saying he just wants to make sure things will work out between us first.

I felt a bit upset that he had gone so far (with touching and stuff) and then says he is not ready for bf and gf.

What do you guys think, what should I say or do. Please help me :(

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  • Anonymous
    9 years ago
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    Of course it's too early to establish a relationship, so he's in the right there. But just make it clear that, for you, it's too early for hanky-panky too. He's a guy, of course if he can get sex he's going to. He isn't playing you at all. Don't worry about it, have fun.

  • 9 years ago

    Sounds like he wants 'friends with benefits' rather than a long term relationship. If he wanted a meaningful relationship, he would not have done those things on the first few meetings. If you are not ok with being just friends with extra sexual activity on the side, then i am not convinced this boy is for you. Get away before it develops any further and you regret it for a long time afterward. Good Luck

  • Anonymous
    9 years ago

    Wow this guy sounds like he is really into you. I'd keep going on dates. He may be serious about wanting to make sure things would work out before you started being in a full on relationship. So like I said, maybe go on 3 more dates. At the end if the third, ask him again. Tell him that you like him and would like to take it to the next level. I'm sure guys appreciate it when girls tell them their feelings. Good luck hon!

  • 9 years ago

    You should just strip off your clothes and show it to him! LOL just Joking!! maybe he wants to get to know you a bit better? After all you havent been going out that long?!

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  • 9 years ago

    hes either scared of being in a relationship or he likes to mess people about not sure ask him

  • 9 years ago

    he wants sex but not with emotion

    seriously, dont pander to him, stay firm and he'll either walk away - in which case he was a prick... or he'll run to you- in which case he will dote on your everyword :D

    xx

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