my girl cousin is 3. she is throwing major tantrums when its time for bed. she will scream and throw her books?

Try getting her up at an early time and also cutting down nap time. Try waking her up after an hour of her nap. Or let her stay up without naps. Kids tend to get tired when they wake real early and are up all day long with them playing and running around that'll get them tired. With waking up early when it's almost time for bed you can put a kids movie on. It'll help her fall asleep she'll get bored and be tired and able to sleep before 10pm. Try eliminating any heavy foods or drinks before bedtime. Also there are songs that can be played when trying to put a little one to sleep. They can also rock the kid to sleep or tap the child's back slowly and soothily to make the child comfortable and relaxed. Any of these should work well.

I dont beleive in ADD. Heres some tips. About 2 hours before bed, avoid all electronic Screens for her. This way her brain will rev down and not be stimulated. Sit with her, cuddle with her, if you are relaxed with her she will be relaxed. Avoid sugary juices and pop, because these things will rev her up. Dont let her sleep in! Wake her up early and keep a set schedule! If shes not waking up until ten or eleven AM, she isnt.sleeping at night because of it. Most cases of ADD that I have seen are just unimproved parenting skills...

I would assume ADD because of tantrums or non-verbal showing of frustration/disagreement. Tantrum is quite usual form of child behavior in that age, and the best way to take care of it is to ignore it, and it should go away soon enough. Regarding her sleeping hours, I would suggest shortening of daily naps, in order to get her sleepy sooner in the evening. Also, making a routine is helpful, toddlers accept most of the things without problem if they are used to it, i.e. if it is routine. Of course they will try to make a fit at first, but just don't let it get out of hand, i.e. just stay focused, and maintant discipline. Ignore tantrums and screaming, throwing books or whatever. It might seem impossible at first, but after few evenings of the same routine, she will accept it.

If you still want to pursue/investigate ADD option, go see a child psychologist and get the child evaluated.

http://voices.yahoo.com/supernanny-bedtime-method-...

http://www.supernanny.co.uk/TV-Show/Clips/Clips/St...

http://www.supernanny.co.uk/Advice/-/Parenting-Ski...

I know a lot of people may think it's a bunch of BS, but really, the SuperNanny's techniques really work. I used them for my kids. As far as ADD...My 1st born was ADHD and it was diagnosed at the age of 5 by recommendation of her preschool teacher. Perhaps having her checked by her pediatrician might help

Best of luck to you and please look at the links.

Put her to sleep!!!!