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I am at a loss about what to do here, any input regarding child psychology would be helpful.?
Well..where to start... recently (meaning within the last month or so) my daughter has been exhibiting very unusual and very age inappropriate behaviours (not sexually or in that way).
i've noticed that she's been very negative, kind of sullen, and withdrawn. I kind of blew it off thinking well, maybe she's just blue. then she started (at home, especially whenever she was in time out) that she hates her life, she hates, hates her sisters and that she wishes they were never born. so red flag there.
the biggest and most concerning point is that at school she told her teacher that she wanted to kill herself(then proceeded to make a slashing motion on her throat and wrists). i've never made those motions around her, and I don't watch tv around them. (however they have been exposed to some media whilst family was watching them.) regardless i'm very concerned. i have already taken the first step by taking her to a psychologist for therapy. but I don't know how to handle this on a day to day basis. as a parent what can i do to help her feel better? I have never had to deal with anything like this before.
I am so frustrated, and I feel helpless, and also really judged; but that's to be expected whenever children do anything out of the ordinary, I suppose.
Oh yes, and I think it is important to note that around the time frame she started this behaviour is when she found out about her farther and my-self's separation.(admittedly I did drop the ball on not telling them sooner)
3 Answers
- 9 years ago
This isn't your fault, but you have to be the one to cope with it. Don't make yourself too obvious or she will resent you, but just make sure she is safe. She need preoccupation. These are the kinds of thoughts that thrive in loneliness and boredom. Do things with her. What does she like to do? What does she like to talk about? What does she do when she us by herself? Make sure that she gets plenty of restful sleep and a loving environment wherever she goes, whether that is at her dad's or with you or anywhere. I know this sounds dramatic, but you have to kind of work in secret to make sure she is safe. If she think you are meddling too much, she will most likely shut you out. There is no overnight fix for this, but if you are persistent and you keep her safe, you will eventually see a positive change. Take her to a counselor if the problem worsens. There is probably nothing wrong with her, and she is not crazy, but she may simply need a non-family member to talk to. You'd be surprised at how much a little thing like that can help. If the counselor pushes for medication, resist as much as you can. Medication can be helpful or harmful, and for young children, it is usually the latter.
I'm sorry to tell you that I am not a professional, but I do have a lot of years and experience with situations like these having taken care of other children with similar problems, and once being in exactly the same situation as your daughter. I got out, and so can she. Have no fear.
- lilyLv 59 years ago
it would have been more appropriate to have told her at the time of separation from your husband so she knew from the start it was not her fault. Try and talk to her during mealtimes and any time she wants to talk- she will let you know when she wants to do this but don't force the issue. Talk to the teachers and keep them informed of what you are doing so they can help you and your daughter.
Source(s): have been through a divorce.
