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what can i say? i'm just me... awkward graceful loveable stubborn unique, plucky meditative curious wife mother sinner saint.

  • What would you say to the person who wrote this?

    feels constricting, desighned to keep me well behaved and inside my box of what is

    acceptable for a domesticated mother. I want to go on a trip by myself for a week to an

    island escape to get away so i can breathe, so i can just be myself without expectations

    or restrictions, go zip lining, mountain biking, scuba diving , surfing. except my family

    would never approve, it is unbecoming of a mother to go on vacation without her kids.

    feel so constricted where i am. trapped inside my house with 3 noisy and boistrous kids.

    I need air. I haven't taken more than a 3 day vacation in 4 years, and it was never to

    actually get away. It was to finish up work, house work, home work. Going to a family

    reunion or a conference, never just for fun, and never peaceful.

    I have been in college for 6 years and don't have too much to show for it besides a gray

    hair I found and wrinkles. The stress is physically aging me. I am trapped on this treadmill

    and Haven't had a legitimate break in years.

    I almost booked a week long trip for 1 to the us virgin islands. I could have done it, I

    almost paid for it. I know I need a break but i knew I would get talked to about taking

    one. dissaproving family. This entire week I've been fantasizing about fixing my bike and

    going biking on the trails in the parks in town. or Kayaking down the river or

    4 AnswersFamily6 years ago
  • What do you think about single mothers who go to college?

    Here's the deal:

    I am a single mom and I go to school, I also work 40 hours a week. I'm trying to gage what society thinks about people like me. I feel like I'm doing the right thing by getting an education, some of my family members have condemned me for not being there for my kids, and this makes me a neglectful and selfish mother. I have to admit that I do not see my children nearly as often as I like, and I do feel guilty for missing a lot, and not being able to nurture them like I want. I also feel though like our standard of living will never be better, and they will never have better opportunities unless I get an education, so to me I guess It's not a black and white issue but varying shades of gray. So am I a monster for putting my kids through this, or am i good mom with the future in mind?

    3 AnswersOther - Pregnancy & Parenting8 years ago
  • What do you think about single mothers who go to college?

    Here's the deal:

    I am a single mom and I go to school, I also work 40 hours a week. I'm trying to gage what society thinks about people like me. I feel like I'm doing the right thing by getting an education, some of my family members have condemned me for not being there for my kids, and this makes me a neglectful and selfish mother. I have to admit that I do not see my children nearly as often as I like, and I do feel guilty for missing a lot, and not being able to nurture them like I want. I also feel though like our standard of living will never be better, and they will never have better opportunities unless I get an education, so to me I guess It's not a black and white issue but varying shades of gray. So am I a monster for putting my kids through this, or am i good mom with the future in mind?

    10 AnswersHigher Education (University +)8 years ago
  • What do you think about single mothers who go to college?

    Here's the deal:

    I am a single mom and I go to school, I also work 40 hours a week. I'm trying to gage what society thinks about people like me. I feel like I'm doing the right thing by getting an education, some of my family members have condemned me for not being there for my kids, and this makes me a neglectful and selfish mother. I have to admit that I do not see my children nearly as often as I like, and I do feel guilty for missing a lot, and not being able to nurture them like I want. I also feel though like our standard of living will never be better, and they will never have better opportunities unless I get an education, so to me I guess It's not a black and white issue but varying shades of gray. So am I a monster for putting my kids through this, or am i good mom with the future in mind?

    4 AnswersFamily8 years ago
  • What do you think about single mothers who go to college?

    Here's the deal:

    I am a single mom and I go to school, I also work 40 hours a week. I'm trying to gage what society thinks about people like me. I feel like I'm doing the right thing by getting an education, some of my family members have condemned me for not being there for my kids, and this makes me a neglectful and selfish mother. I have to admit that I do not see my children nearly as often as I like, and I do feel guilty for missing a lot, and not being able to nurture them like I want. I also feel though like our standard of living will never be better, and they will never have better opportunities unless I get an education, so to me I guess It's not a black and white issue but varying shades of gray. So am I a monster for putting my kids through this, or am i good mom with the future in mind?

    2 AnswersGrade-Schooler8 years ago
  • what do you think about single mothers who go to college?

    Here's the deal:

    I am a single mom and I go to school, I also work 40 hours a week. I'm trying to gage what society thinks about people like me. I feel like I'm doing the right thing by getting an education, some of my family members have condemned me for not being there for my kids, and this makes me a neglectful and selfish mother. I have to admit that I do not see my children nearly as often as I like, and I do feel guilty for missing a lot, and not being able to nurture them like I want. I also feel though like our standard of living will never be better, and they will never have better opportunities unless I get an education, so to me I guess It's not black a black and white issue but varying shades of gray. So am I a monster for putting my kids through this, or am i good mom with the future in mind?

    9 AnswersParenting8 years ago
  • Factor 3a^3b + 21a^2b + 3ab?

    I dont know if my brain is fried or what but i wanna cry right now lol. anyone know why this is not working???

    4 AnswersMathematics8 years ago
  • how do you tell gmo vs non gmo via an electrophoresis gel?

    We have our molecular weight marker added. we added two non-gmo controls and a test into the wells, but the lines in the gel don't make sense to me....i know it's based on molecule size/weight, but how does that relate to gmos? (we're testing corn chips)

    2 AnswersBiology8 years ago
  • I am at a loss with my child? what to do?*?

    Well..where to start... recently (meaning within the last month or so) my daughter has been exhibiting very unusual and very age inappropriate behaviours (not sexually or in that way).

    i've noticed that she's been very negative, kind of sullen, and withdrawn. I kind of blew it off thinking well, maybe she's just blue. then she started (at home, especially whenever she was in time out) that she hates her life, she hates, hates her sisters and that she wishes they were never born. so red flag there.

    the biggest and most concerning point is that at school she told her teacher that she wanted to kill herself(then proceeded to make a slashing motion on her throat and wrists). i've never made those motions around her, and I don't watch tv around them. (however they have been exposed to some media whilst family was watching them.) regardless i'm very concerned. i have already taken the first step by taking her to a psychologist for therapy. but I don't know how to handle this on a day to day basis. as a parent what can i do to help her feel better? I have never had to deal with anything like this before.

    I am so frustrated, and I feel helpless, and also really judged; but that's to be expected whenever children do anything out of the ordinary, I suppose.

    Oh yes, and I think it is important to note that around the time frame she started this behaviour is when she found out about her farther and my-self's separation.(admittedly I did drop the ball on not telling them sooner)i have had talks with her about how it's not her fault and the age appropriate hows and whys of it though.

    7 AnswersParenting9 years ago
  • I am at a loss about what to do here, any input regarding child psychology would be helpful.?

    Well..where to start... recently (meaning within the last month or so) my daughter has been exhibiting very unusual and very age inappropriate behaviours (not sexually or in that way).

    i've noticed that she's been very negative, kind of sullen, and withdrawn. I kind of blew it off thinking well, maybe she's just blue. then she started (at home, especially whenever she was in time out) that she hates her life, she hates, hates her sisters and that she wishes they were never born. so red flag there.

    the biggest and most concerning point is that at school she told her teacher that she wanted to kill herself(then proceeded to make a slashing motion on her throat and wrists). i've never made those motions around her, and I don't watch tv around them. (however they have been exposed to some media whilst family was watching them.) regardless i'm very concerned. i have already taken the first step by taking her to a psychologist for therapy. but I don't know how to handle this on a day to day basis. as a parent what can i do to help her feel better? I have never had to deal with anything like this before.

    I am so frustrated, and I feel helpless, and also really judged; but that's to be expected whenever children do anything out of the ordinary, I suppose.

    Oh yes, and I think it is important to note that around the time frame she started this behaviour is when she found out about her farther and my-self's separation.(admittedly I did drop the ball on not telling them sooner)

    3 AnswersGrade-Schooler9 years ago
  • I am at a loss about what to do here, any input regarding child psycology would be helpful.?

    Well..where to start... recently (meaning within the last month or so) my daughter has been exhibiting very unusual and very age inappropriate behaviours (not sexually or in that way).

    i've noticed that she's been very negative, kind of sullen, and withdrawn. I kind of blew it off thinking well, maybe she's just blue. then she started (at home, especially whenever she was in time out) that she hates her life, she hates, hates her sisters and that she wishes they were never born. so red flag there.

    the biggest and most concerning point is that at school she told her teacher that she wanted to kill herself(then proceeded to make a slashing motion on her throat and wrists). i've never made those motions around her, and I don't watch tv around them. (however they have been exposed to some media whilst family was watching them.) regardless i'm very concerned. i have already taken the first step by taking her to a psychologist for therapy. but I don't know how to handle this on a day to day basis. as a parent what can i do to help her feel better? I have never had to deal with anything like this before.

    I am so frustrated, and I feel helpless, and also really judged; but that's to be expected whenever children do anything out of the ordinary, I suppose.

    Oh yes, and I think it is important to note that around the time frame she started this behaviour is when she found out about her farther and my-self's separation.(admittedly I did drop the ball on not telling them sooner)

    3 AnswersParenting9 years ago
  • how do you tell the difference between aspergers and depression?

    I've always felt really different than everyone else. i don't seem to fit right into the cogs of society.i have a different outlook on things than most people. things that most people are really concerned about, i just don't care about. and things that other people find really uninteresting; i am zealous about. i feel smart, but i think because of the way i project myself and some of the actions and choices i make people think i'm weird,stupid, or distasteful. i am really awkward and i don't know what to do in many social circumstances, i offend people without realizing it.

    I am depressed i've been through a great deal within the last 3 yrs, and i feel like people really dislike me. i am reaffirmed of this even without verbal interaction, people give me looks in public (i don't know if it's the way i dress or what, i think i dress normal but i don't really know what normal should be). coworkers will talk to me but i'm not included in many gatherings(i've been there for two years.)

    it's mainly not knowing what to do or how i should react in social interaction, what is appropriate and what is not, and soforth. i'm funny and i do have freinds, but i don't know what i'm doing wrong to come off so distasteful to people.it's really frustrating and all of the looks and sometimes thjings said do hurt. I find it easier to communicate through typing because there isn't voice inflection or social-body language to worry about.

    my councelor says it's probably because my parents didn't socialize me well as a child in social interaction. it could also be that i'm very quiet because i don't like to talk to people for fear of coming off miscomunicated or offenseve and hurting someone, or getting hurt. b

    but i feel like somethings wrong, i feel broken. i'm not a well oiled cog i guess

    3 AnswersMental Health9 years ago
  • How to prepare a wet mount slide with dye?

    How do you prepare a wet mount slide from agar out of a petry dish. i also have some fenanzo dye(blue) and some eosin dye(red) both in powder form, how would i mix those to dye the specimen? also the dish was contaminated by mold, so would that mean i wont get to see the bacteria that has also grown?

    2 AnswersMedicine1 decade ago
  • Renewal of vows, formal or informal?

    ok so let me give you a little back ground info on this question. my husband and i when we got married didn't get to have a big wedding, it was pretty quick and basically we got eloped because he was military and he was shipping out soon so we wanted to do it before he left.

    while he was away thigs happened and we were seperated on the verge of divorce for a little over two years. within the last few months we have gotten back together and it's stronger than ever now. so we are super exited about our second chance and renewed points of view on one another. we were looking to get our vows renewed.

    i figured that since we never had a real ceremony that maybe we could do it now? with the white dress and the whole she-bang. but, i'm not sure if this is proper. how is a renewal of vows supposed to be? because when i've seen them they're kind of informal, and there isn't much of a ceremony, like a full-blown wedding. how does this work?how would i go about this?

    12 AnswersWeddings1 decade ago
  • renewal of vows, formal or informal?

    ok so let me give you a little back ground info on this question. my husband and i when we got married didn't get to have a big wedding, it was pretty quick and basically we got eloped because he was military and he was shipping out soon so we wanted to do it before he left.

    while he was away thigs happened and we were seperated on the verge of divorce for a little over two years. within the last few months we have gotten back together and it's stronger than ever now. so we are super exited about our second chance and renewed points of view on one another. we were looking to get our vows renewed.

    i figured that since we never had a real ceremony that maybe we could do it now? with the white dress and the whole she-bang. but, i'm not sure if this is proper. how is a renewal of vows supposed to be? because when i've seen them they're kind of informal, and there isn't much of a ceremony, like a full-blown wedding. how does this work?how would i go about this?

    9 AnswersEtiquette1 decade ago
  • name that song! verizon "rule the air commercial"?

    there is a commecial(i think it's verizon) with a techno/house song with an infectious piano rythm but i can't find what the song is anywhere! do dee dee do dee dee.(lol i know, but i really wanna find this song!) help?

    2 AnswersRock and Pop1 decade ago
  • verizon rule the air song? want to know what it is.?

    there it a commecial(i think it's verizon) with a techno song with an infectious piano rythm but i can't find what the song is anywhere! do dee dee do dee dee.(lol i know, but i really wanna find this song!) help?

    1 AnswerOther - Music1 decade ago
  • should i trust my inlaws?

    have 3 small children. my husband and i are getting a divorce.. him and his family live in memphis,tn i live in fargo,nd. his family has been pushing me to drop the girls off there and let them stay for two weeks. the problem is that the girls haven't seen them in over two years, i think it might be traumatic to just drop them off with them and leave. the second problem(and the most worrysome) my family doesn't think i should do it because they think that my exs family is going to try to kidnap them and run off with the girls) now, i don't think they would do that, and my family has been kind of paranoid delusional in the past, then again his family has been unstable/ unpredictable in the past. so i don't think they would but there is that "what if". when i tell her i want to come with them(the girls) for the duration of the trip my mother in law says, "i'm(as in my mother in law) not going to get to see them for the rest of my life..." i can't get off enough vacation time, for a full 2 week stay, and i don't want to quit my job, but i don't want to drop them off with them.(even though a 2 week break would be really nice.) what do you think i should do?

    6 AnswersToddler & Preschooler1 decade ago