renewal of vows, formal or informal?

I say go whole hog. Whatever you want. White dress, sparkles tiara, whatever floats your boat. I think anyone who badly wants th big white wedding should get to do it once, even if it's "just a renewal". What I don't get is people who have already done it, doing it again. As long as you don't renew your vows every 5 years and expect everyone to stump up the cost of a huge wedding, I think thats just fine.

Do it once, and make sure you do it exactly how you wanted. You may have family and friends who want to share that with you and never got the chance. Have a great time!

Obviously you can do whatever the two of you would like to do. If you want a big wedding affair, a white dress, a ceremony etc., it's all up to you. You plan it like you would plan any wedding, or anniversary affair. With planning it you must decide everything that you would decide with any wedding or any party. How much money do you have to spend? What is important to you? Where? How many guests? Food? Alcohol? Dress? Tux? Attendants? Gifts? Minister? Church? Announcements? and the list goes on and on and on.

Frankly, if you were my daughter, and you have only been married a couple of years and are just getting back together etc., I would encourage you to have your vows renewed in a church in front of friends and family and the congregation during a Sunday service. It would be brief. Just wear a pretty dress and the husband in a regular suit. Then the two of you should just go on a lovely vacation/honeymoon. You need to focus on eachother. Solidify your bond with eachother.

I completely understand how you feel. But you don't say how long you've been married, how long he was serving overseas. You were separated for 2 years and have been back together for a few months. Renewing your vows at this time will probably do a lot to strengthen your bond. But I think it should be a small intimate ceremony. Save the big blow out ceremony for a milestone anniversary, like your 10th or 15th.

Congratulations! You can do whatever you want. It's really up to you and if you want to make this your wedding, go for it. Talk to the person who is going to officiate it and ask how to go about it. My parents renewed their vows at their 25th anniversary and they had a mass and did the vows and everything. It wasn't formal but it can be.

Since it's your ceremony, I say do it up or down however you like. :) Personally, I would never do an informal ceremony, because my vows are a huge deal to me, and I would want to take them seriously and treat them as such. I think it's great you guys stayed together and the two of you should take this second chance seriously. Congrats guys.

There's no strict rule about whether it has to be formal or informal. But since you feel like you didn't get to have a proper ceremony the first time, go ahead and do it now. Send out invites specifying formal attire, get yourself a wedding gown and go for it.

Renewing vows at Church is usually 'sunday best attire' but you could wear a simple white

dress even with a veil and he can wear a suit, you can celebrate after services at your

favorite restaurant with family and friends.

Spend the two hour party money on a trip and read him his vows a s surprise in a nice beach or mountain view.

There are no rules when it comes to your day. It should be about the both of you. Talk to each other and figure out what you guys want to do. It shouldn't be about impressing anyone. If you did that, it really wouldn't represent how you feel about one another. It could also depend on your budget.