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My best friends broke a promise...how can I trust them?
It's always been the three of us...1 guy 2 girls...And with prom coming up in october and stress of finding dates and everything we promised each other that we wouldn't go with each other because one girl would be left out...last night he asked her to prom and I had to act happy but then I went home and texted her that she shouldn't have done that. I'm really hurt because it blatantly means I've always been the one less liked and it's the principal of it too...we were just talking about it earlier that day and then she goes and accepts it? It's completely unfair...btw our prom only happens once in our lives so it's a huge deal and we wait 6 years for it...but anyway she hasn't replied to my text and he hasn't texted me either...i feel like i shouldn't have said anything now but my mom said that i shouldn't apologise for being angry because I'm not in the wrong. I thought I could trust them with my life and now I'm starting to doubt it..What do you think I should do on Monday in school? it will probably be awkward..if she doesn't reply should I talk to her about it or just try to act like nothing happened?
Apologies for the long essay :P But I would really appreciate if you could read it I don't know what to think or feel in this situation. Thanks :)
What should I do about the text...should I apologise and say I just didn't know what to think? And the definitely don't like eachother because he's gay.
This is the text I sent. I had had a few drinks but nothing major, so if I was completely sober I probs wouldn't have said anything, so please don't call me a nasty b*tch...not looking for haters here. Anyway, here it is:"You made a f*cking promise...wtf is up with that? It's really unfair to me."
She still hasn't replied.
3 Answers
- ?Lv 79 years agoFavorite Answer
Sweetie, I hate to say it, because you seem like a kind and sensitive person, but I think it may be best to let this one go.
*Edit*:
Oops... lol. I wrote half a book before I saw the "additional info" that the guy is gay. That changes things quite a bit, because I assumed that they probably were interested in each other.
Since they're apparently only going to the prom as friends, then you might be the winner in this situation after all. As you pointed out, a prom only happens once in a lifetime (except that you might get to attend someone else's prom as a guest), so they're essentially wasting their one prom on a non-romantic evening. You, on the other hand, still have the opportunity to find a "real" date and go with someone who you're actually attracted to, and who feels the same way about you. And that should make the prom much more special for you than for the friends who blew you off in order to go together as just friends.
As for what you should do, I think you should mention it to one or both of them, but without too much drama. Try not to be angry or too emotional, but let them know that you're disappointed because you all had an agreement and they violated it. If nothing else, you'll probably at least get an apology. But let them know that you're over it, and are okay with them going together (because frankly, what's done is done, and there isn't a lot that you can do about it other than to let them know that it upset you). I agree with your mother that you shouldn't have to apologize for the text, though, because you're right - they shouldn't have broken the agreement without discussing it with you first.
Also, keep in mind that if they really are going only as friends, and if you can't find - or don't want to find - a date of your own, then there's nothing stopping you from going solo and hanging out with them during the prom. You're only a 'third wheel" if they're an actual couple; otherwise their going "together" is just a technicality. The fact that they agreed to go together doesn't necessarily that he's closer friends with her than with you; it may just mean that they discussed it first, and either forgot about the agreement or didn't consider it a big deal. Showing up solo won't leave you "left out", as long as they still want to hang out with you.
- Payo loves JapanLv 59 years ago
I also faced a situation like this before and you know forgiving them is the best thing ever.
You mom is right in her view that you dont need to apologize to them for now.
Well......after going to school......see if they are willing to talk with you or not.If they dont talk...then you need to talk with them and tell them that you feel a little hurt that he asked her out.
After all......they may like each other and you cant only think about yourself .They also have heart and feelings.So ..........let them live their life and instead of getting upset .....make friendship with them again.
- 9 years ago
Maybe they genuinely started liking each other?
I think you should definately forgive them, You shouldn't let small things come in the way of your friendship
I think you should let it go =)
have fun at prom =))
