I feel like stealing or killing someone.Am I too bad??? This boy is different & I don't want to hurt anyone.?

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This is little bit different case,pls help.Well...our family is a conservative family. My mom dad loves me so much & so much that they always prohibited me from mixing with others 'cause they fear I'll be kidnapped. I don't understand why they think so? I don't know who & why would somebody just kidnap me I asked them why do u think like this, but they ever say "you won't understand & you are very young,u don't know the world as much as we do.Don't talk & go to your room." But I'm 21 & still staying with my parents. I'm a girl. From India. & that's totally wrong that I don't have any idea about the world. But the difference is I start with positive thinking about anyone,besides I also keep it mind that I can't trust anyone 100% or more than that rather I just go on mixing up with others &....well I don't understand is it so necessary to decide this person is dangerous or not all the time?Then I may become mad,I guess.But my parents starts with negative thought.And I tried but they don't change because they r wiser by age. But I never think wisdom depends on age, does it??? 
well now... I couldn't mix with much people(girls),let alone boys. So that effected me,it grew much attraction for opposite gender.I passed my college life & there I saw many love stories,so I ever wanted a love story in my life too.But I'm always very careful.I don't have any love story up to college life for me.Then I was so busy in preparing for medical admission test.I got chance.Then I got 3 months free time before CLSS starts.Then I was so depressed for some matters but the feelings for boys,attraction was always inside me.Then I met one on net & he is younger than me & I was attracted by his cute face.(But now I don't find any cuteness in him.)I was knowing him slowly & still knowing.After 1 month chatting we promised we will never leave each other as just friend.I still think him only friend. Yes in mid time I felt many thing for him but never expressed.Now I stay in hostel & we talk over phone.But THE MAIN PROBLEM IS HE IS VERY SENSITIVE & TALKS TOO MUCH, MAY BE CONTINUOUSLY FOR 4 HRS.this was the highest time. I can't stop him. He takes 15 Min's for saying bye.I know this is crazy or some may tell he is MAD.I'm not quite sure because he talks in nice sequence,manner.He just tells me everything whatever happened someday,point to point & more than points.So,girls in my hostel makes fun of me that I'm in love with some junior.But there is nothing like that.They don't stop.It's being 3/4 weeks.The funs are disgusting to me now.But I fear to tell them anything cause then I think if they don't talk to me I'll be so lonely.Loneliness kills me from my childhood.I don't wanna be alone again.But I need to stop them.But HOW???And here my mom is not liking talking with him at all 'cause he may kidnap me.I hope nothing will happen like that.But I also want to decrease the talking.How can I do it? no idea.I don't want to hurt anyone. I want the hostel girls stop making fun of me about this(I feel disgusting),I want my mom not to worry about this & not take the matter as common gf-bf matters,I'll not escape(no idea why do they think like this),I want to decrease the taking times,hours,I want to keep good relation with everyone.Is it impossible???Any idea,any solution??Please help me,I'm feeling helpless.Please...don't let me loose myself.I can't take this much pressure.It's quite new.I've never experienced this kind of problem.Please please please help me......

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

i totally understand :)  i too face things like this
for ur friends, tell them things like its not nice to be jelous
for the boy, i think that u need 2 be a bit firmer

Anonymous · Answer

Your self-esteem is very low.  You need to trust that no matter what happens with this boy you will find friends and other boyfriends.  He sounds a bit controlling.  

Tell him you don't have so much time.  Tell him when you must end the call.  If necessary hang up on him at the approved time.  He must learn to listen to you, not to talk over you.  If he doesn't want to listen to you, move on.  Your parents are controlling and so is your boyfriend.  you need to discover your own life, your own desires.  You are a wonderful person and you DESERVE someone who wants a mutual relationship with you.  

Mutual relationship:

Listens when you talk
Takes seriously what you say
Doesn't pressure you for sex EVER!  Not even once!
Allows you to have a life separate from him
Allows you to have different interests

Anonymous · Answer

Well, I really doubt anyone is going to kidnap you. Your parents are obviously really really really paranoid and worried about this. They need to calm down and realize how old you are and that you need to become your own person. Tell the girls to just leave you alone. It's as simple as that..there is no nice way to deal with it. You can still be friends but you have to tell them HEY this is not funny, you are not cute by doing this. You're acting really immature and you need to stop it, it's old. If that doesn't work, then don't speak to them for awhile. Maybe they'll come around. And the boy...you need to explain to him that you are good friends with him but that you can't stay on the phone that long because you have things to do. You can't help that. If you are true friends he will understand. Everything is going to be okay. DO NOT kill anyone please. Just become your own person and stop letting people push you around. (:

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I faced this situation once.. And the other person just won't stop talking.. Honestly it depends on you.. You can talk him out of it, and if he refuses too, then he's not a good friend for you.. You can always find new friends. If you feel uncomfortable with him talking non-stop, then it's best to cut all the ties with him..:)

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hi, is there a school counsellor you can speak to? I think u shld seek help and talk to someone, preferably a professional counsellor. No matter what, you should not kill someone or steal! Please calm down and write down what is upsetting you in a journal first. Then try to speak to someone, a counsellor if not in school you can look for counsellor outside. Don't do anything rash, please if not u will regret it.

Anonymous · Answer

Superduper1976 has been going around on her and hateing on every one!! We should get him back... Hes been  callin people ugly trashy thefts and hoes!!! (even you hes the one with chuck norris pic we need to report him or something)

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get some help

Anonymous · Answer

You are a filthy whore.

Die in a fire

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