Proper gift giving etiquette for 3rd wedding?

I agree a simple card or inexpensive (but decent) bottle of wine is sufficient.

Or running shoes for the groom...I don't think she'd get the joke though.

Get the wine anyway...I'm sure the groom could appreciate it. HE'S not pregnant.

You are not obligated ever to give a large gift. If you plan to attend the wedding then I would just give something small/cheap on their registry or 50 dollar check in a nice wedding card.

My mother feels the same way as you. I have a relative getting married for the 3rd time (all his marriages have lasted only a few years or less!) soon. My mother hopes we are not invited and does not plan to attend if we are invited. She already has said to me that she will not buy him another wedding gift because 3 weddings is excessive for one person. 2 weddings ok but not 3. Especially if they are within a few years apart and he never seems to work on the marriages before quickly getting divorced.

I would say either RSVP no and don't attend and just mail a wedding card with nothing in it. OR attend and give a small amount 50 to 75 dollars in a wedding card. If you attend you are eating food they paid for so I would give a small check or gift so you don't look rude or like you don't care. If you can't afford to give anything then don't but you run the risk of other relatives thinking you were rude to attend and not give anything.

A business card of an attorney who specializes in pre-nups and divorces.

EDIT: oh she's also pregnant for the 3rd time...I know one of those too! She stole my ex fiancee, 4th husband 4th kid all from different hubbies. No wonder you're getting sick of this game. Don't even attend the "wedding" it's all a sham. These women have gotten wise to the child support game and are only marrying because they know that any child born in marriage is presumed to be the child of the groom, by the law unless proven otherwise. She doesn't need anymore legal help she knows exactly what she's doing, and now so do you. Cut her off! You sound like you are way above her and it's pure coincidence you were born into the same gene pool. Save face by saying your husband, boss, childs principal, preacher (anyone who your family believes trumps this family obligation), has something more important they requested you attend. Then leave it up to her to go around saying you did not send a gift. If asked say you sent a nice blender you will win the "she said, she said" war against this serial child support collector.

Third Marriage Etiquette

You are never obligated. It's never been mandatory to give a gift at a wedding but if you dont want to go empty handed, a nice bottle of wine would be nice

Personally I give at both. I have always seen the bridal shower as a gift for the woman and the wedding as a gift for the couple. Because of them giving one present you could either buy 2 cheap presents or give one present. If your only giving one I would recommend giving it at the bridal shower because presents are opened there. And giving just a card at the wedding just to acknowledge that you were there. Good luck!

Daughter getting married for the third time; I told my husband I was not buying her gift; he was somewhat shocked, but after I explained what I was going to give her, he was satisfied. I was given some crystal by her grandmother and great grandmother that we don't use anymore. I might as well pass it down to her now.

You have already paid your dues. You have gifted her twice already in her previous marriages, one just a short one year ago.

A card is due and nothing else. Friends and family members are exempt from gift giving to repeated offenders.

Good luck

A book. "Divorce For Dummies."

Edit: Not even divorced for a year? Damn. I was married for 12. I loved my wife and would have done anything for her. But after all the stress of it, I took 3 years before getting serious with someone.

If it were me...a card with our signatures and a lovely note and nothing more...not a penny.