How do I get her back?

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I've been in love with this girl since middle school.  She was my first love, first sexual partner, and first major heartbreak.

We're still friends.  Sometimes, I feel like she still loves me--When she smiles at me and gets excited about us hanging out.  And even when I stay over her house, sometimes we hold hands in the dark.

But her mother knows nothing about our past relationship and she seems a tad embarrassed when I tell people.  But when we've talked about it, we've agreed we wouldn't change it.  But....  I still love her.

I think she knows I love her, but she never comments on it.  I've had girlfriends since and they never work out.  I love them, but I never fall in love.  Plus I seem to have a bull's eye on my back for control freaks....

What do I do?  How do I get her back?  How do I confess without possibly ruining our friendship?  How do I move on?

Please help.

? · Accepted Answer

It is hard to predict where to go from here, but I truly think it is time to move on. It is okay to have feelings for her if she was your first everything. She won't be easy to forget, however I'm sure she is not stupid and is well aware of your feelings for her. You don't just hold hands with an ex and not have it mean something, but it seems as though her feelings do not match up to your's. However she might just be afraid to acknowledge those feelings. In the end you have to talk to her, if she doesn't feel the same then it is time to cut her out of your life, or you'll never be able to move on.

I would like to point out something you should consider, why would you want to be with a girl who will only be with you in the dark, and seems embarrassed when you tell other people?

narellan pools · Answer

Well what do you want, do you want to move on or do you want to tell her. If you want to tell her you should just go for it, say hey i love you but i don't want to ruin our friendship and if you don't feel the same way then i will just try to move on. but if you want to move on then you would probably have to distance yourself from her, at least for a while.

What Ritz said sounds somewhat like rape or imprisonment.

John · Answer

I dont know i cant answer that. i never had that. wish i have. lost a girl to that exact situation. hate the ***** now. cant get her out of my mind for half a year now though. still think about her.

eifRyL · Answer

is your ex gf does not have a bf right now? if she does not have, i think its ok for you to date or confess to her again. it is also possible that she is just waiting for your action to ask her again. maybe she's just kinda afraid to be the first one to tell you that she's still have feelings for you.

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