My husband always wants to get drunk, how do I control the situation?

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We have been together for 3 years, married for one and I am very concerned about my husband. There are days when he is great, but most of the time, he comes home and has two to three beers a night, just to get buzzed and doesn't think it's a problem. When he drinks, he gets distant, and we always fight when I try to bring up the situation.

On the weekends, when his friends tell him that there's a party somewhere, or want to meet up for drinks, he will find some form of way to get blistering drunk and I constantly feel like I am having to babysit him. If it's not beer, it will be wine or whiskey and I am very concerned. His grandfather had alcoholic problems and he abused his grandmother. His sister just had a DUI, his mom keeps bottles of rum under the kitchen sink and his father swigs whiskey in the garage when nobody is looking. Is alcoholism running through his genes?

I hate being in this situation, I want him to have fun, but it just seems like he doesn't know how to control himself. Please advice. Thank you.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

my brother is an alcoholic

i believe he inherited the gene

we have different fathers, and people on his side of the family have alcohol problems

people on our side do not

he has been alcohol free for 6 + years

the ONLY way that an alcoholic or a family of alcoholics can help you ?

it is if they are alcohol free

if they are still drinking and hiding alcohol ?

it means they are alcoholics and can't control their drinking

DO not listen to alcoholics that are still drinking about how to deal with an alcoholic loved one

you can't control his drinking or make him stop drinking

however

you CAN control yourself and your reactions to his drinking

join a free group for people who have loved ones or family members that are alcoholics

you will learn how to cope and will meet people who are experiencing the same things you are experiencing

you will learn from them, and they will learn from you

it helped our family and saved our family

see the links below

peace

Penela · Answer

Sadly, alcoholism is a heredity disease and it seems your husband is afflicted with it as well.  I think your husband needs to get to a point in his life where he realises alcohol is ruining his life, before he will make any attempt to change.

Also, AA is not just for alcoholics, it's for families of alcoholics and they can provide support and advice for you, and strategies on how to handle the situation.

Anonymous · Answer

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Emily · Answer

Be strong, confront him. Let's face it, maybe one day he might not come back home. He could get into a car accident. You guys will continue to grow even more distant than ever. You do love him, right? Do what's best.

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