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Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsSingles & Dating · 9 years ago

I asked this but no one answered. Please PLEASE answer 10 points ASSURED?

Okay, so me and my boyfriend have been dating for a while. He is incredibly sweet, i don't suspect him of cheating at all.

But the thing is he has a BEAUTIFUL friend. Like super pretty. Long long hair, sexy eye lashes, lovely eyes and lips. She is also VERY intelligent, is on the debate team, sings, plays the drums, guitar and violin. She is also tremendously popular and my boyfriend spends a lot of time with her (they have mutual friends and i'm not a part of that group).

I very VERY jealous and insecure and I have no idea what to do.

Please don't tell me there isn't any reason not to feel insecure cos i do. Thanks in advance! =)

And the girl doesn't have a boyfriend. She isn't mean to me, but she isn't very sweet either.

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  • Anonymous
    9 years ago
    Favorite Answer

    Be honest, it plays a pivotal element in a relationship, if you want the answer, the best way is to ask him. What you can do now is to love your boyfriend more, show him warmth and comfort, be his pillar of support, just do anything and everything that nullifies every reason for him to leave you. Frankly if your boyfriend hasnt left you for that girl, it means that she probably isnt appealing to him, at least not enough for him to leave you. Beauty isnt superficial only, you are beautiful for who you are innately, if that part of you has brought you a relationship with him, capitalise on that strength to convince him all the more why he shouldnt leave you.

    Source(s): daily experience
  • 9 years ago

    I think you have a right to wonder why he's hanging out with a "group" that you're "not a part of." Why do you not hang out with them? Do you not like them? If that's the case, you may just have to suck it up and hang out with them anyway, just so you can see firsthand the dynamic between your boyfriend and this other girl.

    This may be a crude way of putting it but no guy is good enough to get away with it forever. If he is cheating, you'll find some hard evidence eventually. This isn't it, though.

  • Pug
    Lv 7
    9 years ago

    If they wanted to be together, they would be (you wouldn't be in the way

    of that). So, therefore, they must not have any emotional or sexual

    chemistry; they like one another as friends or acquaintances. If they

    end up being attracted to each other, there is nothing you can do

    about that, either. So, hard as it may seem, just relax and enjoy

    your relationship; trust him until he gives you a concrete reason

    not to.

  • 9 years ago

    Being jealous and insecure is a very ugly thing. Just talk to your boyfriend about it but don't get on at him about it cause you're only going push him away. TRUST is what's needed

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  • 9 years ago

    The easiest thing to do is to insult her, but not so blatantly. Make her feel worthless. Say things like "Oh hey [girl's name] looking a little round around the edges, maybe we should work out sometime?". Also, create this other imaginary (but only you know that) girl that is even more perfect than her, so whenever she talks about her hobbies that she's good at, you can bring up this other girl to 1 up her every time. Eventually, if you play your cards right, you can crumble her self esteem and force her to turn herself into a disgusting ogre.

  • 9 years ago

    The best advice I can give you if for you to talk to him about it, tell him how you eel even the jealous bit, tell him you know you should but you feel this way and talk about it with him. Come up with a compromise so that he can still see his friend but makes you feel more comfortable and less jealous.

  • 9 years ago

    It is easy to feel insecure around a beautiful woman. But he chose you. This girl and him are just friends. But just in case, I would try to get to know her a lot better. Remember keep your friends close and your enemies closer.

  • 9 years ago

    invite him over when you are with your friends and ask him to invite you over with his friends and then maybe you might get an idea of anything going on between your bf and her. if you still feel insecure ask your mutual friends to look around and tell you about them. or talk to him about it. ask him to answer honestly. try to become good friends with that girl as well :)

  • 9 years ago

    it is easy to get jealous b'coz you said she is very good. don't ask your bf to stop meeting her or else he will lie to u and still meet her. instead of trying to get rid of that girl, do things for your bf that will make him feel special.

    get involved in things he does and tell him about what you do. if you are sexually active with him, then try new things.

    give him gifts, tell him how much u love him, sometimes we forget such basic things.

  • 9 years ago

    If you confront him and he is cheating, you will most likely break up

    I you confront him and he isn't cheating, he will be offended an you would likely break up

    If you don't trust him, then surely the relationship isn't worth having.

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