Guys: what do u think..My boyfriend will take a vacation to Europe w/out me...I feel disappointed & upset?

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Together for 3 years.
We are in our 30's.

He works at an adult language school where his title is an activity coordinator. basically he takes students out to many activities. He gets to know them after activities as many of them want him to hang out with them. The students are young adults (18-26) from various parts of the world, especially Switzerland (that's where he is going) and come to the US to learn English for 1 to 12 months.

Im sad b/c not only did he not ask me whether i want to go with him but because I feel jealous that he will be seeing people (especially girls) I do not want him to see again (although he keeps in touch with them on facebook). I never met them. I did talk to him and he says its one trip before settling down with me (if we get married).

I contemplated breaking it off with him b/c I do not want to be jealous. He was sad when I mentioned the breakup and gives me space to think. He also stated that if I am jealous because he has friends that are girls, then we should break up. He is right, I am jealous that he has friends that are girls. This is not about cheating. I need to make more friends that are boys...I guess.

Should I feel this way? AM I WAY too insecure?

opinionated · Accepted Answer

you are a  GF
you are a GF that does not want him to take a vac.  the vacation is just your reasoning,you ,don't want him to see another girl,even if you trust him

 can you afford to go with him ? no?  then he most likely cannot afford to take you on his dime

i think you need to grow up some

mmm · Answer

After 3 years if he is NOT including you - you are NOT a part of his life that you want to be.  You are still separate.  I would have to say 'the end' for me

You're jealous because he didn't invite you.  You tell him that.  You wouldn't of been so upset if he were to include you - excluding you makes it very suspect . . . .

I would tell him its no big deal that a group of friends are going camping that week and you'll be tied up anyway.  Let him figure out what you are doing while HE is away . . .

mothergoose1947 · Answer

Together for 3 years?  OMGosh, give me a break.  Three years isn't exactly a short time to be together.  Where is his sensitivity?  Its only right that he invites you to go with him.  I'd think twice about this guy. 
He apparently does NOT take your feelings into consideration does he?  Best of luck to you:)

Kelly · Answer

You sound like an insecure teenager upset her boyfriend is going away for a few days.

Anonymous · Answer

Not insecure,it would be nice if he would take you along really,you guys are in your 30s if he were early 20s ide prob be sorta ok with it.

Anonymous · Answer

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Guys: what do u think..My boyfriend will take a vacation to Europe w/out me...I feel disappointed & upset?

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