I am scared of dating, and being used?

Hi TabithaCate, first of all you go easy on the you go to sleep drink. The reason you feel like you do is because you're feeling a little insecure. Most of the problem is because you don't know the guy well enough to date him. It's no good hanging around with groups, that's not the way to carry on in a relationship. First of all you hang out with the guy, just the two of you. It's not a date, it's just maybe you two in your room, or his room, and talking generally about things, and finding out just what each other might see happen in a relationship. You do this a few times, and you will find yourself feeling comfortable with his company. It also gives you a background as to what to talk about when you're on a date. This will help you not to be shy. Try to think of a date, as though it were not so much going out with the guy, and more as you going out and this guy is with you. Place more emphasis on yourself, give yourself some self-respect, hold your head up, and then add a piece of dignity. You have to think positive, your whole question is written negatively. I understand why you've written it that way, it's because you're shy, and a little unsure. But once you get comfortable with the guy, you won't feel that way any more. So TabithaCate, best foot forward and make this guy feel privileged to take you out. You've hung out with him a few times, you've gotten used to him, you're feeling comfortable with him, so the date becomes easy. Then this guy will be someone to have a laugh with, but he will also be someone to date. This guy you met when you're drunk, I'm reminding you not to drink so much, is not the way to do things, you just don't go on a date straightaway, especially if the hotel is on the agenda. Take it slowly like I say, get to know him, get comfortable, and I'm sure you'll have a lovely time, because I'm sure you're a lovely girl. And you deserve a date without being nervous, and without smelling of drink.

I wish you happiness.

Learn from mistakes e.g the one night stand club bloke, I'm sort of like you in the sense I'm scared of one to ones and people playing me around, to be honest its hard to find a good partner of either sex now days both men and woman seem to sleep around a lot, there are some good people out there, just hard to find them, id say just go out with friends and enjoy yourself and if someone takes interest get to know them a bit by meeting up at the same place, you will notice things they do will tell you if they're after one thing or genuine, I know that's not much but its all I can think of at the moment :)