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Is my friend a bad friend for doing this?

She and I have been friends for about 3-4 years. Her long time male friend has been hanging around and I told her that I had a crush on him. She eventually hinted at him, and he said he liked me too.

To make a long story short, we slept together 1 night and then didn't speak until the following weekend, when we hang out again. He apparently told my friend that he had a great time and really liked me, etc... a few days later, he told her that he doesn't really like me anymore and that he likes some chick he works with.

Since then, I haven't talked to my friend much. We usually hang out every weekend but now she's hanging out with him instead of me (apparently we can't all hang out together anymore.. ?)

My question is.. We all usually hang out together but now he doesn't want to see me at all, so they are hanging out together without me. I am the one that kind of got dumped and she's hanging out with him and not really supporting me... I know that she doesn't think I am hurt by the situation but I kind of am but I don't know how to express this to her without her telling him that I'm "heartbroken" or some BS.

What do I do? :(

Update:

The thing that confuses me is that he didn't even tell ME that he's not wanting to see me anymore.. he told my friend.. and just saying that he doesn't want her to invite me along to hangout.

It's so confusing and really messed up. Sadly, I don't have a whole lot of other friends to choose from at the moment, haha.

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  • Lila
    9 years ago

    Tell your friend your feelings and that you have no problem with her so there is no need to ignore anybody. Stress that you guys can keep hanging out. If that guy doesnt want to see you, then clarify you are over it and that you are not going to makea big deal about it. If he does still, than that his problem.

  • Anonymous
    9 years ago

    i was in similar situation too with my friends. having three people in a group of friends is always hard bc two of them are bound to be closer. but your situation seems more complicated. anyway just try not to be stressed out about it and hang out with other friends.

  • Leele
    Lv 6
    9 years ago

    He got what he wanted easily. He probably talked. Bad reputations are hard to live down. Sorry!!!

    Source(s): just me
  • Hark
    9 years ago

    If I were you, I'd talk to my friend and if that didn't work, I'd possibly talk to the guy and tell him that you'd liked to stay friendly and whatnot.

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  • ツJuℓiσ ☆彡
    Lv 5
    9 years ago

    Tell your feelings to your friend.

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