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? asked in Family & RelationshipsFriends · 9 years ago

Is she a bad friend or.. ?

She and I have been friends for about 3-4 years. Her long time male friend has been hanging around and I told her that I had a crush on him. She eventually hinted at him, and he said he liked me too.

To make a long story short, we slept together 1 night and then didn't speak until the following weekend, when we hang out again. He apparently told my friend that he had a great time and really liked me, etc... a few days later, he told her that he doesn't really like me anymore and that he likes some chick he works with.

Since then, I haven't talked to my friend much. We usually hang out every weekend but now she's hanging out with him instead of me (apparently we can't all hang out together anymore.. ?)

My question is.. We all usually hang out together but now he doesn't want to see me at all, so they are hanging out together without me. I am the one that kind of got dumped and she's hanging out with him and not really supporting me... I know that she doesn't think I am hurt by the situation but I kind of am but I don't know how to express this to her without her telling him that I'm "heartbroken" or some BS.

What do I do? :(

The thing that confuses me is that he didn't even tell ME that he's not wanting to see me anymore.. he told my friend.. and just saying that he doesn't want her to invite me along to hangout.

It's so confusing and really messed up. Sadly, I don't have a whole lot of other friends to choose from at the moment, haha.

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  • 9 years ago

    in my opinion, this should be a learning experience for you. Don't hook up with friends because you will probably end up without a bf AND a friend. and plus, it's hard for women to have sex with someone and not develop feelings, even if it happens pretty quick. But anyway, maybe you can talk to him and tell him that yal tried to make it work but there weren't any sparks so let's just get back to all being friends again. your friend may be torn and not know what to do, I think if you fix things with him then she will fall back in line. good luck

  • Anonymous
    9 years ago

    Tell her what your feeling right now if she continues to ignore you for him than she is being untrue to you..so if it continues tell her you dont want to be friends anymore than text me Ill be your friend(979_525_5709) & screw her for loosing someone great & not being a good friend to you...only if she continues though because if she stops then she cares about you aswell

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