I'm mixed but I have been dealing with identity issues all of my life how do I deal with this?

Time on task is how I deal with matters of identity. I've lived in the skin I'm in for 69 years. I had four exotic looking children with a man of northern European ancestry. I've been passionate about family life, higher education, reading, and travel. Living in the moment and focusing on the chores at hand helps a person become less self conscious over time. Trades, college degrees, skills, a steady income, and jobs really really boost self esteem. Teenagers and young adults are still working at developing a strong identity. Every emotionally sound and healthy person has to grow a thicker skin/shell like a turtle to navigate more comfortably through life.

My late cousin use to recite a little poem that has always made me smile whenever I think of it.

I hope it makes you laugh at yourself.

I know how ugly I are.

I know my face ain't no star.

But I don't mind it.

'Cause, I'm behind it.

You're the one that gets the jar.

In other words, I am what I am. Now, deal with it.

unlike this *** before me said.... You are special!! You need to embrace who you are and screw anyone who doesn't accept you, because they don't matter. I'm a Portuguese-French-South-African. And believe me, south-africans have blood from all over the world. I know how you feel, because a lot of people didnn't accept me too. I was too Latin for my ''boere'' family (and I don't look typicaly South-African either) and I was too South-African for a lot of Latin people. After I made peace with myself I discovered that the people who realy matter in my life don't care of what descent I am. They care about ME as person. I love the fact that I have latin blood and live in South-africa! I live in a small town with about 600 people, and me and my family are the only ones who are of ''latin'' descent, so I feel unique. I also am engaged to a wait for it... Portuguese South African man. So our children are going to be a whole mix. Just love yourself!