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My friends are making me want to relapse..help?!?
I had an eating disorder since i was 12, then when i was 16 i was put in special care from my GP because i was very underweight. I used food as a way of trying to get some control of my life, i know now that it obviously didn't help me whatsoever but at the time i felt much better restricting. I have put on 3 stone and feel much better both mentally and physically, and my bmi is now a healthy 19, but my friends dont eat anything at lunch, and through out the day, im the only one that eats and it makes me feel awful, their so unsupported, even though i've told them everything, only one of them will sit and eat with me at lunch and even she only has half a salad or so. I'm so sick of telling them weight isn't everything and that being skinny isn't the be all and end all...they don't care that i almost died doing it, they just care about how much fat is in the muller light yogurt their eating. What can i do? I'm so tempted even though i know its wrong and i feel better now, i just feel like i need some control back :(
re-reading what i've written sounds so pathetic, i would say to myself get new friends and ignore them, just be healthy. my problem is i guess i want to help them too, make them listen to me from experience, because we all used to be so close and have such a good time together. i just want that back, i think we all have eating issues. But they can't see how much it affects everything else!
5 Answers
- Paul FeinmanLv 79 years agoFavorite Answer
If I were you I'd dump these friends of yours especially if they don't care.
- 9 years ago
just tell them once and then find supportive friends. really thats all you cant do
- LaredoLv 79 years ago
The only control you need is self-control to stop running your mouth about eating, food, amounts, etc. Just absolutely refuse to discuss weight and food with them and tell them you don't want to hear anything they have to say about it. Their only goal is to make someone feel bad about what they are eating or their weight. Don't worry about whether your friends do or don't eat, that's not your business and you can't control them. You eat healthy and stay healthy; that's all that matters.
- RichardLv 49 years ago
Maybe you need some new friends. If your friends know that you had an eating disorder and continue to act in this way they're not very good friends. I know this is hard to believe and sounds callous, but believe me: almost everyone in your life is replaceable.
If you want control in a healthy way, maybe you could look into some kind of lunchtime activity. I don't know your circumstances, but are there sports or other clubs at lunchtime you could do? Alternatively exercize in another context could be your friend here. Most girls seem to prefer to diet hard rather than train to achieve the kind of physique they want, but a combination of sensible eating and high levels of physical activity is healthiest, and this will result in the most 'desirable' physique, since this is the physique we are evolved to desire.
I hope I've helped, but whatever you do with my other advice, I'm sorry to say your friends sound like idiots.
Good luck.
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