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Why do I struggle to comfortably converse with people?
I'm currently twenty three years old, and I find that I have a hard time carrying on conversation's with people...Mostly people my own age. I struggle to build off of what they say to me...Instead I usually just respond with a mostly empty meaningless answer like ''Oh that's cool''....Or ''that's nice''. It makes me feel really bad because I feel like I'm really boring when I'm out with people...When I'm in a group of people I'm more often then not I'm the one who has little involvement in the group and contributes very little to any conversations that might be going on.
This is relatively new phase in my life. I've never felt like I was a great conversationalist but it seems as though that since comming into my early twenty's Its gotten worse. I find that I now struggle to make conversation with old friends that I used to could talk to about anything with.
This is REALLY putting a damper on my dating life...I've never exactly been what you would call savvy with the ladies...But now I can't even make myself talk to girls that I'm interested in.
What is causing me to be this way?
What can I do to change it?
@Isaac.
Go to hell. And troll somewhere else dumbass.
4 Answers
- nobodyknowsme™Lv 59 years agoFavorite Answer
I'm just here to say I'm exactly like you :X I'm 24 this year. and everything you described, described me to a T as well..
I don't know how to encourage you, as I'm in the same boat. I just try my best to think of something interesting..and people do say I'm really random all the time, lol.
I often go, 'okay..that's cool' which bores a lot of people to death, really.
So sometimes, what I do is just smile at them and egg them on. That kinda makes me a good listener, and as and when I see something interesting to add on to the convo, I'll just say it. But basically, I'm a very reticent person. :X
Must be our life experiences that changed us this way, made us more self-aware and serious.
- Anonymous9 years ago
maybe a new found fear of the seriousness of life in some respects - try lightening up and letting yourself off the hook accept yourself as you are adn you will probably loosen up .
- 9 years ago
Just say whats always on your mind.....or think of something funny that happened.....I use to be like that but then I learned that when I did something embarrassing or have a funny story about family or friends to just come out and say it.....if something doesn't interest you in a conversation just say whats on your mind and if they think its random just tell them what triggered the thought or just laugh about it being random.
