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At what point should I cut my son's mother out of his life?
First off, dont answer unless you are a single parent.. I'm a young single father, gained full custody of my son after DFCS took him from his psyco mother who wasnt taking care of him... since i gained custody she has mostly been absesnt. she comes by when she feels like it, althought she has an "open" invitation. i simply ask that she call or text a day ahead of time. in the past say 3 months she has come by 2 maybe 3 times a month for a few hours. she has supervised visitation and after 9 months is finally paying child support.i've had single moms will tell me to cut her off but not legally so she will still have to pay child support but dont know if that is the rite route to go. im worried this will effect my son over the years, he already shows signs of resentment torwards her at 2 years of age.. suggestions please, i have run out of patiance with this deadbeat mom!
3 Answers
- bleurozeLv 79 years agoFavorite Answer
Does she have any legal custody or visitation schedule or is it open? If not, I suggest petitioning for supervised visitations on a regular schedule and allow only those scheduled visits. During the court hearing, explain to the judge that you have given an open invitation to visit the child in your home, but her inconsistency has been damaging to your son. If her supervised visits are already a set schedule, stick to the schedule. He doesn't need her popping in and out at will. You don't have to cut her out, just don't go out of the way to include her if she doesn't want to be included.
- creedLv 79 years ago
the best thing you could've done was support the mother...never made her the 'fool', or the 'deadbeat', or the 'psycho' in front of your child & I'm sure he gets that from you already, esp @ two yrs of age...also, how come you didn't know what was going on before DFCS was in??...she's got her own battles to overcome while you are taking care of your son, let her deal with those...the only thing you need to concern yourself with is the people that are involved with your son right now & that they love him...anything else, let them work it out...it's not your job to manage her, ya shouldv'e tried that earlier before DFCS came in...it's your job now to make sure you allow your son to meet all kinds of people he can share his time, or life with..& that doesn't necessarily mean a girlfriend for you...start thinking kid & you'll be fine...start thinking about yourself, you'll get screwed...again, she's got her own battles, let her work it out, but you need to tell your son that in spite of her actions, he is still loved by her...she just needs time to figure herself out...he'll be the better for it...if you keep involving your son about how YOU feel about her, it's destined to fail....
- LaDii3 j0k3rLv 49 years ago
Whether you like it or not, she is still the mother of your child. Unless the court says otherwise then i would let her come visit him once in a while then never. Do not cut her out unless she is doing anything abusive to him.
I would give her specific days where she can come visit. That way if she doesn't then it's her fault and not yours. That "open invitation" will not be good once you settle down with someone else.
