How can i get my friend to mature up?

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My best friend, we're the same age and visibly almost the same.
Once you get to know both of us, you realised that one of us is much more mature, important, serious and intelligent than the other.
Not to boast, but the alpha one is me.

We're both into geek culture and heavily in the gaming branch but one thing i've never grasped is why are we so different? Let me break it out this way: He believes that if you can't program in ANY for of language, you are not "Someone" to him, if you take his place, in ANY case, like his seat in class, walk with ME instead of me walking with him; He's gonna try to **** your **** up. No lieing, he once got into a fist fight over a seat, and it was violent.

He's also lazy (He believes sports are a waste of time), gross (He brings raw bacon has a snack at school), Possessive over everything (Has i said, i am a thing and if i'm not walking besides him, he's gonna try to) and hummiliating to be around with (None of us are known very well, so when he gets ***** about something, i'm blamed aswell.) and neet (His parents give him everything he want, doesn't have a reason to live, plays videogames all day long)

I really wish he'd grow up, because if i just leave him, he'll have no friends and knowing him, he'd stalk me and randomly turn physicly hostile to me whenever i'd come near. (did i mention he has anger management issues too?) I'm not blaming him to be like me; I've had a pathetic childhood and had to be independent very quickly, but he blames people to be utterly stupid and he's worst. 

(Sorry for typos, i'm in a hurry)

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hmm.. my cousin is like that but she is a girl (looks horribly manly though so you cant tell) she bosses me around, makes little kids cry, incredibly lazy, causes trouble and blames it on me, and farts like there is no tomorrow.. in my face.. anyway she thinks she is better than everyone so look at her funny and she beats you up, and if she cant beat the person up she says i told her to do it then they come after me.. heres what i do:

1.when were walking together i walk slightly behind her and keep at least 3 ft between us, so people think were not together..
2.when she farts i hold my breath or breathe through my sleeve (she eventually stopped doing it since she thinks it doesnt bother me)
3.when she tells me to get her a soda or whatever because she is lazy, i get it, hand it to her, and say nothing, not even looking at her (that usually makes her feel guilty and she doesnt ask for anything else)
4.when she gets in trouble, like by the teacher for throwing stuff, and i get blamed, i say 'do i really look like i did that?' which usually makes them yell at my friend xD
5.when she fights people ill go into the nearest room or around the nearest corner and wait until she is done, then i avoid looking or talking to her unless she says something to me directly.

when u ignore/dont look/ or talk to people usually they try to change whats wrong to make you do it again, and if your friend has no friend then theyll try harder to make you happier so you dont leave. anyway good luck :)

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