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Why would my boyfriend do this? ?

I found a whole bunch of porn in my bf stuff.I got mad.he said he didn't need it and would stop. I found more a week later. He threw it away and said sorry.then his old cell was going off cause of a alarm and I got tired of hearing it I turned it on and found more videos this time. It was all *** porn I offered to do it if he wants he said no I offered to take naughty pictures of myself and he said yes he seemed really happy but it was a lie he deleted the pictures. I feel so ugly. We have been together since high school 11 years I am starting to feel like he is bored with me. I don't know what to do I can't even touch him with out thinking he is thinking of those other woman. I feel I should dump him for a little while so he can be with some one else. I don't how to feel. Some please tell me how to feel

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  • ?
    Lv 6
    9 years ago
    Favorite Answer

    Bored has nothing to do with it, literally. It is an addiction and a malfunction in his head. I have actually know of women thinking that he is bored and try just about everything, including agreeing to have multiple women to be with him as well as her in the mix. Not just him and two women she was one of them, but four and five way with him, and he still was addicted to pron and all she did was to loose respect for herself.

    If you dump him, do not ever consider going back. He will only chang if he wants to change, and at this point, I have not seen him change. Do NOt blame yourself for this. Do Not!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I have talked with hundreds of women about this situation, and generally he was doing it before the marriage, and still does it. She thought she could change him, but the first woman that thought that and tried, my dinosaur was just an egg, and she is still trying to change him.

    What generally happens is that since girls are having sex at 12 and 13, guys expect and demand to have sex with all women now. A few years ago sluts and strippers were commended for doing this. It is nothing more than a guy ego thing and it is now acceptable to many in society.

    The feelings should be disrespected, used, and anger. And he possible is thinking of other women. Guys can now have the best of both worlds now - a wife to have sex with every night, and to openly be looking and fantasizing about other women. They want to have their cake and eat yours too. UGH !!!!!

    If you leave so he can be with other women, do you want to risk diseases that he will be exposed to??? Can you accept him again knowing he is just being disrespectful and egotistical??

    Do not geel ugly. A friend was a runway model - literally - and her ex was all into porn and wanted to do all kinds of stuff with her and one day just dumped his @$$.

    Good Luck !!!!

    Source(s): 3 millon years of evolution.
  • 9 years ago

    Having innocent magazines like Playboy is alright. Sometimes old magazines show up. What concerns me is why after 11 years, why hasn't he put a ring on your finger and make wedding plans. 11 years is to freaking long to be just a girlfriend. If I were your mom, I would call him a douche bag! Tell him that you are the one that is bored and want to meet a real MAN that wants real commitment! Don't let him take any nude pics of you! A mom like me with two adult stepdaughters would have run him off with a shotgun!

    Source(s): Old mama style advice. I have a 27 year old single son and would never treat a lady like that.
  • Anonymous
    9 years ago

    Im sorry you feel like this but to be completely blunt, you must feel completely insecure about yourself. Seriously, we're all animals, he's a guy, guys were made to reproduce. I bet, you have seen other naked pictures of guys or porn, whilst being together. To completely say NO to your BF watching porn is total bitchiness. Would you say no to giving food to a baby?

    Source(s): commonsense for crying out loud
  • Anonymous
    9 years ago

    He may have an addiction and makes excuses, every time that you confront him, about it. I do not believe that him being with another female and temporarily or permanently breaking up with you will solve the problem. I believe that he needs to find a way to overcome his addiction, if that is the case. It may not be an addiction, it may be something he just does not want to let go of.

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  • Anonymous
    9 years ago

    the whole idea of watching porn is to look at OTHER WOMEN, which are NOT U. so your naughty pictures aren´t gonna do anythign for him. if he wants naughty u he can just open his eyes, no need to put it on pictures

  • Anonymous
    9 years ago

    Make it seem like you're looking at porn and see how he feels. If he's not okay with it then smack him in the face for being an ***. If he is okay with it, smack him in the face for being an ***. If he repents for his misdoings, then celebrate by covering yourself in chocolate.

  • 9 years ago

    what a such boyfriend you has ? he's not good enough for you.... try find another guy babes, more guy whom better than him. . . . . . .

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