I just don't know what to do, so confused?

Hey there, sorry to hear you are going through this. You don't have to decide right now, but you have options. You could split your time with the kids, and maybe you can agree that you will always have them on your breaks from school.

It will be alright. The end of a relationship is hard, nothing will be the same again but you will get through. Be around your friends and family, let them talk to you/comfort you.

I know how devestating the end of a long relationship can be...and painful. It did happen to me, I think I was depressed for a couple of months but then pulled myself out of it. It won't last forever, I promise.

I am not one bit surprised you are confused!

What I don't understand is why after 10 years, he has decided this and yet you are sure there is not another woman involved? I got that from your other question that you are sure he is not involved and yet here, you say: I hope.

I feel strongly because you mentioned facebook that he has got his eyes on someone else. No man just ups and leaves like that, without a sexual reason.

As hard as this is on you, you have to get your husband to get together with you and talk to the children and tell them what is happening. Children are not stupid and will sense something bad in the air and will start to panic - especially as you also say that your husband sleeps on the sofa now!

You ask for any books well, I am a christian and if you go into our official website at: www.watchtower.org, you will find a magazine that discusses divorce and seperation and what to do when children are involved.

Although continuing uni is great for distraction, it is your children who are the most important element here and so I strongly think you have to pull out of uni and be there for the children; this will also - sorry to say this, but slam your husband in the face, because he seems to be only thinking about himself.

I am positive he has met another woman on facebook and also pretty sure that it won't take him that long to come running back to you!

This is a very difficult time for you, but do not give up, this was not your decision you need to remember and I think at the moment you should defer study and look after your kids, because they will get you through this....my husband left after 30 years for a young tart....I was devastated and I must say I never thought that I would get through it....but I did and I am much stronger now and my kids and I are so much closer and it is wonderful I am back to studying and planning my first holiday on my own....so hang in there it does get better....

I’m sorry that you are going through this.

Firstly, you will always be your children’s mother, regardless of whether you are at uni or not, nothing changes this.

I think that you should both sit down together and discuss the needs of your children, they need both of their parents right now. So, I think if you could arrange joint custody that would be a good step forward.

The children will be affected by this, so you need to work with your ex to make this transition less traumatic for them, this is absolutely possible, but it takes two.